To the Christians Who Love Jesus, But Are Battling Porn

It’s time we get deeper on this blog, and though I do like to write deeply about my future husband and the seriousness of a marriage that reflects Christ, I want to also focus on other things that need to be spoken about as well, for the walk of a Christian is so much more than just a marriage or a certain season, but it is a walk on this narrow path at comes with bumps and turns.

Therefore, posts are going to get deeper, ore raw, more real, and we are going to be getting into things that we need to discussed if we are going to be loving each other in tenderness and softness, but though I will be posting about marriage here and there, I want to also expand the lessons and the words being spoken, for there ate many things we need to discuss as we breathe Jesus into each other.

And so where are we going to begin?

With the number one thing Christians squirm when they hear it.

Porn.

There are many Christians who are bound to it not because of intentionally wanting to be, but due to falling into the grip of porn that will not let go, which has crippled them from being able to break free in Christ, and they sit in our pews of the church feeling so much shame and brokenness as they hang their head afraid to look at Jesus. The statistics for Christians viewing porn aren’t begin talked about as much, for we refuse to become uncomfortable, which is also wrong, for we should be willing to storm the gates of hell together with the power of Christ rather than against each other.

So here’s my open letter to the Christians who love Jesus, but who are battling porn.

I see you, and I am not here to speak words of condemnation either, but I do see you.

My dear friend, I know you wrestle with this addiction, and I know that you did not intend to spiral into this web of addiction that you have found yourself in. Maybe the porn started with curiosity? Maybe it started due to you wanting to know what was out there, or maybe you had no person to confide in for whatever reason, and so you went to something else?

Whatever it might be, I know you feel so much brokenness, shame, and guilt for the pornography, and I don’t think I have to remind you. I don’t have to remind you about the pain you feel, the shame you feel, and the way you hide it due to not wanting anyone to know that you deal with it. You aren’t hiding it out of sneakiness, but you hide it due to shame; shame to admit that you are a broken person who fell into a tough area that you need help getting out of out.

Dear friend, I might not know what a porn addiction is like, but I do know that it must be difficult, and your lovely heart is being pulled every which way. You try to deny those urges, you try to not guide the mouse on you computer to those sites, and you try to fight the temptation, but in the end, you crumble, and once all is said and done, you feel the deep seeded shame of what you just did as you hang your head in disbelief.

Oh, dear friend, how I wish I could hug you and say, “The Lord is greater than your struggle,” and how I wish I could say, “You are not defined by your addiction, for you are so much more.” Yes, porn is wrong and porn is deadly to the mind and soul, but I am sure you already know that, and I am sure you feel the pain and the guilt, and so I am not here to be a broken record, but I am here to speak words of grace into your heart as I grab your hand to Jesus.

You are such a lovely soul, and I know you love Jesus, I know you strive to be like Him, and I know that if you could, you would snap your finger and get rid of the porn within a heartbeat. You want the temptation to go on those sites to go away, you want the constant deletion of the search history to go away, I know that you want to break free, you want the pain to stop attacking you, and you want to be able to be like the others and live free.

And you can, and you will.

Oh dear friend, you can cry on my shoulder, you can tell me about how you try to deny those desire, and you can tell me about the brokenness in your life, and I will hold you, I will hug you, and I will pray over you in a steadfast love as we talk it through, for porn is not your definition and porn is not who you are, but who you are is a child of God who has fallen away from the 99, but the Lord is after you.

The Lord is after that beautiful heart of yours, and He still loves you just like He did when you first fell to His feet in humble adoration,

The Lord is seeking you in the valley of the darkest,

The Lord is chasing you down right now looking for you,

And He will find you like He did the missing sheep, He will ransom you, and He will pick you up from the ashes and place your feet on solid ground.

The power of Jesus has the power to split the sea, to defeat the grave, to move the mountains, and do anything in His limitless power, and I know that if the Lord can defeat death, then He can take away the grip of addiction, and if the Lord can speak grace into our lives, then He can speak freedom into yours.

Friend, you are not the only porn sufferer in the church, for did you know that 60% of Christian men and around 30% of Christian women struggle with pornography, so you are not alone. We live in a world where we are very sexualized to the point where it is inescapable, but the Lord’s mercies never runs out on us, the Lord’s forgiveness is new, and the Lord’s mercies are new every morning, so we can rest in knowing that repentance is available so that we can grow in the Lord so that we might break free and stay free in His steadfast love.

Sexual desire is our strongest desire we have, and the world is not making it any easier and the world is not making it any better, for the constant ads, billboards, and entertainment industry makes the temptation more strong, and the fact that a person can easily click on millions of porn sites in a blink of an eye can make anyone fall into that addiction.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God,

And renew a steadfast spirit within me.

 Do not cast me away from Your presence,

And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me.

Restore to me the joy of Your salvation,

And uphold me by Your generous Spirit.” Psalm 51:10-12

But my friend, you can be free in Christ, and the Lord can place a clean heart within you that is free from the shame of porn and that is free from the chains of the darkest nights, for we are all sexually broken.

You are not the only sexually broken person to walk the earth, for we all are. We are all sexually broken human beings that desire, lust, and have thought after thought, and so you are not the only imperfect person, and yet you feel so much shame, but the Lord died so that your shame would have no reign on you.

You do not have to be bound to your search history.

You do not have to be bound to pornography.

You do not have to be bound to the shame of guilt,

And can and will be free in His perfect love that covers a multitude of sins.

So listen to me when I say this, the Lord is just and willing to forgive us, to heal us, and to move our mountains with the sound of His voice. I know that this is easier said than done, but trust me, the more you get into His Word and the more you fixate your eyes on Him, the less control pornography will have in your life.

Dear friend, you might not believe me now, but there is so much power in just being in the presence of the Lord, for just thinking abut the Lord gives the enemy no room in our minds, for where the Lord dwells, Satan has no power or reign; therefore, that porn addiction is not who you are, it is not your end, it is not your identity, and it does not have to have power in your life.

Christ is the one with the power, the glory, the grace, the wisdom, and the ability to make porn crumble under His name, so cling to His name, cling to His goodness, cling to His faithfulness, and cling to Him and you will see Him move, work, and set you free. Will it be an instant freedom from porn? No, but it will be gradual as you see the pieces of your life being placed back together, and the lessons you will learn as those pieces are being placed back together will be ever so sweet.

So dear friend. if you need someone to be with you as you begin to allow the Lord to place the pieces back together as you ponder and divulge in His goodness, faithfulness, and His Word, I will be here for you, and if you stumble, then we can both go to the throne together hand in humility, but you will be free in Christ, you will be made whole again, and when you realize that He is both just and merciful, then no mountain is big enough for Him to take down.

Be deeply rooted in the Lord,

Reflect in His grace,

Find identity in Christ,

Drink deeply from the well,

And when you drink deeply from the Living Water, no power can come between you and the Lord, and the lessons you will learn from brokenness will be ever so sweet, so to the Christian who loves Jesus, but battles pornography, you will be made free in Him and Him alone, so let go of the shame, let go of the guilt, and be willing to look at Him and see His forgiveness, for He doesn’t view you as a porn addict. No, He views you as a sheep that needs to come back home in His steadfast refuge and strength.

“My flesh and my heart fail;
But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 73:26

So go home to His refuge, and let Him make you free, for living in shame will only bond you down, but finding refuge in Him will set you free.

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