The Reason of Why I’ve Never Had a Boyfriend

Well, this post is a post that I wanted to write ever since I began writing dating posts, but if Feminists can scream about wanting whatever ideologies they have, I feel as if I can speak about my personal desires as well, and so this is where that comes from; however, everyone knows this about me, but I just haven’t written about it until now.

As of now, it is the Christmas season, and this is the time where many watch all of the romantic Christmas movies, where many dream of finding love, and whatnot, and I am now being asked more often than not, “Why have you never had a boyfriend,” and though I have written about this before, this post is completely different, for there is a reason, and due to me revealing my virginity to the entire with my purity ring, my Conservatism, and all of my other tough topics, I thought, “Why not reveal the rest of who I am?”

Now, as you know, I want to get married now, I want to have children now, and I want to be able to have a family now, which I write about; however, people have asked, “Why have you never had a boyfriend? You write about it so much, so why can’t you find one!”

I know exactly why I am single, and when I tell people, they normally have mixed reactions, and personally, I was raised by much older parents, for my dad was 68 when he passed away and my mom is now 70, and then my uncles were also in their seventies and whatnot, so I was raised by mature, older, and wiser people, and I was raised to be mature, wise, and older as well, so I do believe this is where it comes from.

Anyways, I have never dated, I have never had a boyfriend, and the reason why is very simple, and I’m going to be blunt about it, I don’t prefer men in their twenties, for they don’t want to be husbands, fathers, and they can be immature, and they are more likely to be engrossed with the extreme leftist schemes, but I want a man who does want children and marriage and who would not be afraid to marry me or give me children.

I love maturity, being settled, being intentional, and not being caught up in the rush of the twenties. Personally, I might be in my twenties, but I certainly do not care about the rush, I do not care about the recklessness, and I surely do not relate to twenty-something year olds as my posts suggests. I don’t need to experience wildness and I don’t need to go through a phase, for I want to be a wife to a mature man who loves Jesus, and I want to be a mother to wonderful children who will call me “mommy.”

One of my biggest pet peeves is immaturity and not being able to hold a sincere and thoughtful conversation. I want to be able to talk about tough things, to talk about things that are deep, and I want to talk about marriage, children, and serious things rather on things that are not substance.

And that is why I’ve never had a boyfriend before, and I don’t know when I will get one, I don’t know if a man will think I am worth it, but I want to marry a man who can challenge me, who is wiser than me, who is older than me, and who will make me grow. I want to also marry a man who will encourage me in the Lord, and who will be able to be logical in those moments where things are rocky and tough.

Controversial or weird? Honestly, I don’t care about my husband being older. I know that sounds very rude, but I am not trying to be rude by any means, but I truly don’t care, for my aunt was the same as I, and her and her husband have been married for many, many, many years.

In 2019, we focus so much on identifying something as worthy based on this or that, but we should really be focusing on whether they can be the spouse who can love us like Christ, who can love us unconditionally, who can love us with no end, and who can walk the narrow path with us, and I know that sounds weird coming from a woman who does not want a man in his twenties, but I want a mature man who loves the Lord, who can marry me now, who can give me children now, who can understand my spiritual problems, and who can truly guide me on this path; hence the reason I personally prefer older guys.

Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” Ephesians 5:1-2

I want a man to be the husband that reflects the Lord’s love, and in 2019, younger men are too focused on the sham of “toxic masculinity,” too focused on Socialism, and they are too focused on Hookup Culture, and I don’t want a man to marry me for sex, but I want him to marry me to be his wife, because guess what? Affection is not sex, and honestly, I want a man to lead me to Christ before ever thinking about the bedroom.

I want a man to guide me, to encourage me, and to know more than me, for I want to grow when married, I want to be guided through the Word, and I don’t want to be married to someone who is immature, who cannot handle spiritual brokenness, who cannot handle spiritual problems, or issues.

Personally, I have been through a lot in my life; a lot to the point where I don’t want to marry a man who wouldn’t be able to handle my story with maturity, and I don’t want to be married to someone who is not able to love me like Christ or who is not able to breathe tenderness and advice that would be needed.

However, unlike feminism in 2019, I am not afraid to be wrong, and I want to be married to a wiser and older guy who can tell me, ‘Christina, I love you, but you’re wrong.”

“Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge,
But he who hates correction is stupid.” Proverbs 12:1

In the end, I want to marry a man who is not afraid to sit me down in private and tell me if I am wrong in a loving way while guiding me to Christ in the process, and that takes maturity. I am not right on all things, and I want to marry a man who is not afraid to tell me, “Christina, we need to talk about this” or “Christina, let’s go through the Word together,” and that is the marriage I want; a marriage where I grow in the Word with my husband through refinement and love.

I want a man who loves me enough to want to tell me I am wrong, but not in a way that is mean, but in a way that is meant to make me grow more in the Lord.

If I am being too upset, I want a man to tell me, “Christina, I think we need to sit down and think this through together,’ and if I am hurting, I want a man to be able to remind me of the love of Christ on the cross, and if I am wrong on the Word, I want to be told that I am wrong while being corrected in a lovingly way, and that is a man I want to marry; a man who loves me enough to sit me down while telling me lovingly that I am wrong.

In the end, women are not always right, for I know for certain that I am not right on a lot of things, and I love learning.

A lot of women do not understand me, but that is okay. I am very different, and I think by now everyone can see by my posts that I am quire different, but I want to be married to a man who will challenge me to grow, who will challenge me in Christ, who will challenge me to love like Christ, and who will inspire me to be more like him. I want to be married to a man who makes me rise to his level, and who will help me get there in the process by walk with me on the narrow.

Do I feel shame for admitting that I want a husband that is not in his twenties? No, I don’t, for I’ve been quite open about this with people that ask, for I highly doubt an age difference is going to make all humanity crumble and break under the weight of “such horror.” I am an adult woman who’s well into her twenties, and if society can promote ‘Hookup Culture,” then me wanting a man who is more mature, older, and logical is not a bad thing, and if it is, then I’d rather be wrong than right, but in the end, the wire comes down to this.

“Get wisdom! Get understanding!

Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth.

 Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you;

Love her, and she will keep you.

 Wisdom is the principal thing;

Therefore get wisdom.

And in all your getting, get understanding.” Proverbs 4:5-7

I want a man who isn’t going to view me as  “another girlfriend,” but I want a man to view me as a wife who could be the mother of his children, and who could be the woman who will walk him for the rest of his earthly life, and I want a man who will love my femininity, who is not engrossed in the rhetoric that we see in 2019, and who desires to be a father and a husband.

Let’s be honest, it has been proven now that the rate of having children has gone down with people in their twenties, and this is another reason why I don’t prefer twenty-something year olds, for I want children, I want to be a wife, and I want to be a mother, and I want the same desires in a man. I want someone to encourage me in begin a Proverbs 31 woman, who will encourage me in being a gentle and soft soul, and who will want to start a family with me with no hesitation.

“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27

In the end, I want to be a tiny feminine wife and mother who hopefully home schools one day, but this is a conversation to be had with whoever I marry, for he has a say too, but I also want to be an encouraging wife and mother who my future husband is greeted by when he comes home as he smells his favorite meal begin cooked as his children run up to him showing him the drawings they had made for him.

So to answer the question as to why I have never dated is this very answer, and I not ashamed in admitting it, for in 2019, maturity is no longer present, logic is no longer evident, and people don’t think anymore, and I’d personally like a husband who is logical, mature, and who thinks for himself.

And who knows how long I will be single, but one thing is for certain, I am not intimidated by the idea of my future husband being older or wiser than me, nor am I afraid of being married to a man who knows more than me, for I’m not a woman who is offended by a man knowing more, for in reality, it is very possible for a man to be smart and wise; therefore, I want to be enlightened by my future husband, not offended, for being offended is not attractive.

“But Ruth said:

“Entreat me not to leave you,

Or to turn back from following after you;

For wherever you go, I will go;

And wherever you lodge, I will lodge;

Your people shall be my people,

And your God, my God.” Ruth 1:16

Therefore, I don’t want a man in his twenties, and I’m not afraid to admit that to anyone, for in the end, I am not afraid to walk down the aisle to a man who is older, wiser, and who knows more than me, because guess what? Personally, that’s everything I want in a man, for in the end, it’ll challenge me to be more like him and make me grow, for I don’t want stay where I’m at, but I want to go where he goes as Ruth went were God went.

So this is why I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I do want to be married now, and I hope the Lord opens the door to marriage and motherhood very soon, but as I wait, I will be writing my thoughts of a single woman no matter how different those thoughts may possibly be.

6 thoughts on “The Reason of Why I’ve Never Had a Boyfriend

  1. Beautiful post, Christina. I married a man older than I am, for similar reasons as those you describe, and we have been happily married for 45 years.

    I believe that you will inspire other young women with your wisdom. 🤗

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    1. I hope to be married for that long one day, and I am glad someone else can understand. My aunt married a man who was quite older than her, but they’ve had such a beautiful and happy marriage, and I hope to have that one day. Thank you so much for your encouragement and kind words! God bless you! 🙂

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  2. My husband isn’t that much older than me…only three years…but it was old enough for there to be a difference in maturity (not to mention he was/is a more mature person due to life experiences). Good for you for standing strong, knowing what you are looking for, and being willing to wait. The waiting is hard, but God will bring your husband into your life when the timing is right. God Bless!

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  3. I honestly wish I had your mindset when I was in my 20’s, because I did date. Most times, it never got to the second date, and it was tedious and disheartening, because:

    “I don’t prefer men in their twenties, for they don’t want to be husbands, fathers, and they can be immature, and they are more likely to be engrossed with the extreme leftist schemes.”

    Because of exactly the reasons you stated, dating was difficult. Twenty-somethings I met lacked purpose, meaning, and any sense of responsibility ~ and I was looking for a partner, not a child who thought “adulting is hard.”

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    1. I could not agree with you more, and I am glad someone else sees it through the same lens! A lot of people in their twenties complain about “adulting” or they are either immature and wild, and most of them do lack a sense of responsibility. Though I am in my twenties myself, I don’t want to be wild, immature, or irresponsible, for I want to get married now and have children,

      Therefore, I have decided to only prefer men in their thirties, and I don’t think that’s a bad thing, for if it means having a husband who is mature, thoughtful, and who loves the Lord, then I think it is worth it. God bless you, and thank you so much for your comment! 🙂

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