Another post on femininity? Why yes, for an ordeal that occurred last week has inspired this post, for it has been fumbling around in my brain for the past few days.
I think at this point, it is obvious that Feminists hate men. I mean, look at their approach, what they are standing for, what they are protesting, and so forth. In the end, Feminism is now a “better is I” group that seeks to “take down men” while destroying marriage and the family at the same time.
However, to the brave men who stand up and say, “No, I still believe women should be feminine, gentle, and soft,” I commend that, for saying something such as that in a society filled with feminists, you will get backlash, and that is what happened last week with a random man on social media who thought his statement wouldn’t garner a response.
Oh, but it did.
As almost all people, I have social media, and even though I am an extrovert, I am not an extrovert who always has to post this, this, or this, for I only post my artwork, coffee, Jesus, and feminine things, of course; however, there is nothing wrong with posting what you want, for there is nothing wrong with being a happy person who is posting things that make you happy, but most of my social media time is spent looking at things, getting lost into holes, finding myself on the opposite side of the internet and wondering how I even got there, and so this is where the post leads too.
Due to a friend of mine replying to this man, I ended up seeing the entire statement and 11,000 replies. In the end, one man decided to make a public statement to feminists, and he said that real men still want feminine women who are not in competition with men, and if you can only imagine the firestorm that occurred after such statement, then you can picture an army of feminists typing in all caps behind their screens with frowns of disdain upon their faces. (I had a screenshot, but I don’t know where it went, so if I can find it, I’ll update this post.)
Comments such as, “Any man of mine will want me happy, not feminine,” “I don’t care what men think,” or “Did anyone ask what you think” were the comments that were most frequent, and then you also had those feminists who took things too far, who went to the extremes, but then you had the Conservative men who were dropping amazing Ben Shapiro memes while agreeing with the man.
In the end, this entire fiasco went to a new level. At 11,000 replies and many upset feminists, it has been shown that this man had no idea that his statement was going to garner such a response, but it most definitely did.
My favorite comments were from the Conservative men who channeled their inner Ben Shapiro, but then I also got a migraine from reading the same overused lines from feminists, and so I spent a few minutes amused or with or with a migraine when reading some of the replies.
Which then leads me to this post that has been swirling in mind mind for the past day or two.
Do men prefer feminine women, or wives, in an era that encourages women to disregard femininity, marriage, and motherhood? Do men still appreciate women who want to place the home and Jesus as first, be wives, and be mothers? Do men still prefer soft, gentle women or are men appealing to the loud nature of the left, and do men still prefer to want to be protectors of their women or are they willing to subject their God-given masculinity to Feminism?
Those are questions that I have asked in the past, for I kept wondering as I looked around and saw what men were going after. I began thinking, “Do men still appreciate and desire feminine women,” for as a feminine woman myself, I began to become afraid that men were buying into the feministic lies that were were being crammed down our throats, but it is safe to say that men are not buying into the lies of Feminism, nor are they being pressured by it either, for it is utter disgraceful what feminists have done to femininity, masculinity, men, marriage, and children.
And I know feminists will not like my next thoughts, for I am quite an open women in what I believe in, and I am not afraid to rock the boat with a few unpopular opinions, which I have done on many blog in a few posts in different areas, but this is another post that might not be agreed with by society, but it is my thoughts, and as a Conservatives woman, I believe in the freedom of speech..
“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”” Genesis 2:18
Though I am a feminine woman because I am made in the image of God and due to loving feminine things, I am also feminine, because I want my future husband to see a feminine woman who is not afraid to be feminine in a world that is afraid of femininity. Do I wear a dress because it makes me feel pretty? Yes, but if I had to be honest, I also wear a dress because deep down in my soul, my future husband may be anywhere, he might be watching from afar, from a distance, from anywhere or whatnot, and I want him to see a feminine woman;
A woman who is not afraid to be feminine,
A woman embraces her femininity,
And a woman who is not following the wayside of the crowd,
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
Most importantly, I want my future husband to see a woman who is confident in her identity in Jesus Christ, for beauty is not skin deep, for as 1 Peter says, beauty is in a gentle and meek soul who seeks the Lord in a relentless pursuit after His heart.
I feel as if feminism is filled with double standards. Feminists tell men that it is wrong for them to have standards in women, and yet these feminists are notorious for standards in men. They protest about men being”this,” “this, or “this,” but if a man says, “I want a feminine woman,” feminists explode into anger due to men wanting something out of women such as being feminine.
If I am being honest, I do believe men should want feminine women, for femininity was made in the image of God, femininity was made to be their compliment, and femininity is precious, genuine, and beautiful, and why should that be discouraged rather than wanted? I believe that men should be confident in saying that they want a feminine woman who is gentle, tender, soft, and is not a raging feminist who protests the streets, for there is one thing about it, I would rather be an unknown feminine woman than be known for protesting, for I refuse to lose my dignity to feminism, for that is not who I am.
Feminism will never define me,
It will never stand for me,
It will never tell men who thye are,
And Feminism will never have a foothold in my life, in my future family, or in the lives of my future children, for feminism is a bug that need to be crushed or else it will become an infestation that will be hard to get rid of.
I believe in being a feminine woman who places the family before herself,
I believe in being a feminine woman who is a virtuous wife and who’s future husband safely trusts her.
I believe in encouraging men, not competing with them, for a woman doesn’t compete with her man, but she stands by his side.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
I also believe in being a feminine woman who finds her true worth, beauty, and identity in the one who made a way when there was no way, for if you do not find your identity in Christ, you will always have an identity crisis, for He is the only one who can be the true identity within our hearts, for it is He our soul craves.
So do real men prefer feminine wives or women?
I hope so, because a real man would not tell a woman to abandon what the Lord has made her in, a real man would value a woman who wants to have a family, and a real man will protect, cherish, and be a man to his wife, because there is nothing wrong with femininity, there is nothing wrong with masculinity, there is nothing wrong with being a wife, there is nothing wrong with being a husband, and there is nothing wrong with being a mother or a father.
Personally, I want to be a homemaker and homeschool my future children, but I also support women who want to be career women and whatnot, so I am not saying that every woman has to be a homemaker, but to the women who want to be homemakers, feminists should not say that we are uneducated, because I am an educated woman, I worked hard for what I have, and I take everything I do seriously by giving the glory to God, but I still want to be a mini-van homeschool mom that greets her husband will a warm meal every night, but that’s just me.
And yet society is wanting men to become something they are not, and I believe it is time for men to step up and say, “No, I am not going to allow a group of angry people tell me who I am, because who I am is not in this group, for who I am is in God,” because Feminism has turned ugly and into something that protests everything.
However, don’t you see it? Don’t you see how society is promoting Marxism? Destroy the family first, then destroy religion, then take away property, and then take full government control, and then boom; Marxism has occurred, and as Conservative woman who believes in freedom, the idea of Marxism is terrifying for look at how Marxism has destroyed Venezuela and whatnot; it ends in starvation, malnutrition, freedom being stripped away, and pure anarchy and havoc.
So you know what, I am feminine for my future husband, because that’s what I want that man to see, and I don’t want my future husband to see a feminist who is holding up a sign in front of the Capitol building while demanding for God knows what, for I do want my future husband to want a feminine woman, I do want my future husband to want me to rise to the standard of being a lady, and I want him to want me to be the kind of lady he would bring home to his mom, so no, I am not a feminist, and I never will be.
If I want that man who will find me worth getting down on one knee for to view me as worthy of being his wife to begin with, then I have to act like it, I have to be it, and I have to embrace my true beauty in Christ, which is found in my soul, and so I will be feminine and unashamed of it.
I want a man who will cherish my femininity, who will protect me, and who will love me like Christ loves me, and so I embrace who I am in Christ, because if I cannot embrace the image I was made in, then how can I expect a man to love me like Christ, when I cannot see the love Christ has for me as a daughter of grace?
“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12
I might not know what every man wants, but I want my future husband to hold me to the standard of Proverbs 31, I want him to hold me to the standard of grace, imperfection, and of being a feminine, graceful, soft, and tender woman who walks in truth, and I want him to hold me to the standard of being mama approve, for though feminists do not care about this, I do, and I want to be the kind of lady my future husband’s mother would want as a daughter in law, for I believe that his mother’s opinion is important, for she loved that man before I ever did. However, feminists don’t care about anyone approval but their own, which is saddening.
And so yes, in my personal opinion, real men do want feminine women, for I want my future husband to hold true to this statement, and so I believe in it, I am a firm believer in it, and though we live in a world where I would be socially stoned for such belief, I will marry a man who will be cherish my femininity, my identity in Christ, and who will view me as a daughter of grace, not perfection, so I will wait for the man will treat me like it, who will protect me, and who will embrace his identity as well as I embrace mine, for we are made in His image, not the image of others.
So here’s to femininity, and I will allow a man to hold a door open for me, I will not become offended if a man compliments me, I will not become offended if a man wants to help me as a woman, and I will not be offended if a man wants to pursue me as a wife, for there is noting wrong with masculinity just like there is nothing wrong with femininity, and so I will be a feminine, godly, and gentle lady who waits upon the Lord for the man who will love me as Christ does, for that man is worth waiting for in a sea full of feminism and endless protests.