I do apologize for any errors you may see, for I wrote this late last night after I was done reading Lamentations. This post was laid on my heart as I finished this beautiful book for the 100th time, and I want to share with you the beautiful brokenness that is found in Lamentations, for I believe so many overlook such a beautiful book with a beautiful message of the Lord’s promises never failing even when we are afflicted.
Lamentations is one of my favorite books of the Bible, for it is raw, honest, and filled with brokenness, grief, mourning, and sorrow. I know most people would not find solace within a book on sadness, but to me, Lamentations is the most beautiful book in the Bible that compliments the verse Romans 5:8 quite well.
In fact, I love it so much, that I want parts of Lamentations as well as parts of Romans read at my wedding whenever that may potentially be, which if you keep reading, you’ll find out why, but I love it so much, that I feel as if it needs to be a key piece to building a foundation on Christ, yet many overlook such a book due to it only being 5 chapters, but I do encourage you to read Lamentations for you will see the beauty within, the glory of Christ, and the beauty of being loved in your darkest.
I have read Lamentations a lot in my life. When my dad died, I read it a few times, but then when I became engrossed in abuse, I read it during my healing around four times, and I wept with each page, with each chapter, and with each phrase. This book means a lot to me, it has a special meaning with my soul, and though it is a book that speaks on brokenness, I feel peace in my soul as I read it, for I know that the Lord is faithful, the Lord has overcome, and the Lord is my portion and my rock.
Lamentations taught me that though the narrow path is barren and treacherous, the Lord will be glorified in the end
The narrow path is not easy, and being a Christian isn’t as “rainbows and sunshine,” for it is much more barren than that in many ways. Instead, being a Christian takes denying yourself, picking up your cross, going where God goes, and walking the dry, barren, and narrow path, and I do believe Lamentations shows us that path, for though we read of brokenness, grief, and disaster, the Lord is glorified, the Lord is praised, and that is how the narrow path ends.
“And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.”” Revelation 21:4
Though it may be tedious as we walk the narrow, at the end, the Lord is going to be glorified, the Lord is there, and we will enter into His presence forever and ever without end where sin, pain, and brokenness does not reign, for the Lord will wipe away all of our tears, all of our shame, and all of our burdens as we enter into eternity with Him.
That makes all the walking worth it,
That makes the brokenness worth it,
And no matter how much brokenness I have to go through on the narrow path, it is worth it to live with Jesus for all eternity in a place where joy, freedom, and happiness never ends, for in Him, my hope is found, and in Him, my peace is found.
That is what Lamentations taught me, for through the midst of brokenness and despair, He is there, He is present, and He will be our compass and our guide on the narrow path as we encounter such times of grief, brokenness, and sadness, and as we enter those times, He shall never leave us, but He shall provide a way for us to see through it.
Lamentations taught me that the sensitivity of my spirit to the Lord and His mercy are not wrong, but are encouraged, for I am to come vulnerable and humble to the throne of Christ
I will be honest, I have always been picked on for being a vulnerable person, and no, I am not talking about being sensitive in a “Liberal way” where I cry at the sky, but I express my feeling due to being an empathetic person who is so in love with Christ, that He has made me vulnerable to His Spirit.
However, the Lord wants me to come to the throne of grace sensitive and vulnerable, for it is in my humility that I am lavished in His perfect grace. When we become desensitized, we also become desensitized to the wonders grace, and when we aren’t approaching the throne in a humble and vulnerable way, we will never be able to fully appreciate all that He has done.
Yes, I do cry when I read Lamentations each time. I cry every single time I read it, and that is okay, because the Lord died for my tears, the Lord died so that my heart would yearn for Him, and my heart yearns for Him everyday; therefore, I will not desensitize myself, but I will continue to be sensitive to the grace that was shed upon me, I will continue to feel His grace in every fiber of who I am, and I will never allow myself to shut down to vulnerability, for in our vulnerability, we can see how amazing God is.
Lamentations taught me how to love my future husband at his darkest as Christ does
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Since I have mentioned an influx of my thoughts on marriage, singleness, and whatnot for the past few years now, Lamentations did teach me something about that area of life, and it is the raw side of a person. Lamentations taught me that the broken, vulnerable, and raw person is the same person that seeks God the most, for this person is the one who loves God with all of their heart, and is the one who can glorify God more than the one who seemingly has it all under control, and that is the kind of man I have prayed for since first reading Lamentations three years ago.
I believe in rawness, in vulnerability, in being able to pour out every single form of shamefulness without the fear of someone running away, because in Lamentations, the Lord stayed. Even when it seemed dark, even when it seemed as if everything was falling apart, the Lord still stayed, and His promises and faithfulness were strong and steadfast.
That is where Romans 5:8 comes into play long before it’s words were every echoed; I loved you in your darkest. Lamentations shows the actual darkness, the actual pit of despair, and the beginning chapter will cause anyone to feel the wretchedness and the pain. Just look at how verse two in chapter one sounds, “She weeps bitterly in the night, Her tears are on her cheeks; Among all her lovers She has none to comfort her. All her friends have dealt treacherously with her; They have become her enemies.” That is brokenness right within the very second verse.
Weeping, tear-stained, everyone is gone, no one to comfort or encourage, and everyone turning against her, Jerusalem; that is the pit of darkness, the darkest you can go too. The part where you are weeping, tear-stained, feel as if you are alone, and it is as if everyone is your enemy, shows the rawness of the darkness, and when we look at Romans 5:8, the Lord says, “I loved you in your darkest,” and in Lamentations, His compassions never fail us.
That kind of love is what I want in my marriage, and that is why I want Lamentations and Romans as the central backings of a marriage, for that is the Christ centered approach to a marriage, for we have to get to the root of pain, the root of darkness, and if we are to love our spouses at their darkest, then we have to get into their darkest and reach for them, or else we will never understand them as Christ does.
“See, O Lord, that I am in distress;
My soul is troubled;
My heart is overturned within me,
For I have been very rebellious.
Outside the sword bereaves,
At home it is like death.” Lamentations 1:20
We have to love the raw, vulnerable, and broken side of our spouses, and we have to love the weak, afraid, and shameful side of our spouses, for Lamentations shows us the shameful side, the side that is alone, and the side that is broken, and we cannot love the happy side of our spouses if we do not love the side of them that is broken; the side that no one sees.
We have to love our future spouses for who they are just as Christ does, we have to love them in imperfection, in vulnerability, and we must love them even when they are in their worst, for if we are to love like Christ, we have to get into the weeds, into the root, and into their darkest with them, not against them; therefore, we must be the encouragement to them, and we must love them at their darkest, because that is real love, that is what Lamentations shows us, and that is what it means to truly love your spouse at their darkest.
That is what I hope to accomplish throughout all of the brokenness I have gone through. To be able to love a man as Christ loved me is how I want to love my future husband, and though it may seem odd to make this connection in Lamentations due to the book being about brokenness and grief, you have to look at the bigger picture. The Lord loved them even in their afflictions, the Lord never left them, and His compassions did not fail them, and that is how I want to love.
I want to be able to love even if my future husband is like verse two; alone, tear-stained, weeping, and has had almost everyone turn against him. I want to not only make my vows to the good times, but I want to make a promise to not leave in the brokenness, for many run at the sight of brokenness, but not I, for if Christ can stay in my darkest, who am I to run when Christ never left me? In the end, Lamentations taught me how to truly love my future husband at his darkest, because there is no book more broken than Lamentations.
Therefore, that is what Lamentations has taught me, and it will forever be a book I cherish, and it will forever be a book I hold onto in the depths of my heart, for there is beauty in brokenness, there is beauty in glorious scars that show the glorious healing found in Christ, and there is beauty in vulnerability, so come as you are to the throne of grace, for the Lord wants you as you are, and the Lord will never leave you.
“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23
I encourage you to read Lamentations, and I promise you will see the beauty, and though many do not read it due to it being depressing, I promise that by the end, if you are as vulnerable to the grace of Jesus as I am, you will be in tears, you will be in utter adoration for Christ and His goodness, and you will see His love displayed, because though we walk the narrow path and the treacherous valley, we will not be consumed.
At the end of the day, I am thankful to be loved by the Lord who overwhelms me with His grace, and no matter how many broken stones or moments I walk through, the Lord will never leave me or forsake me, and so why would I not love Lamentations, for though broken, it is beautiful, for the Lord makes beauty of brokenness, and the Lord makes beauty out of ashes.
And in our ashes, He will see the beauty, and how thankful am I for a God who sees the beauty through the fire and through the ashes.
That is Lamentations,
That is what the entire book is about,
And though we walk through the fire, with the love of Christ, we will not be burned, but we will come to the other side with no burns, but instead, with His grace and love, we will be refined.