I always find myself going back to Proverbs 31 after reading a book of the Bible, and it begins to resonate within my soul again. Each word, each phrase, each line all means so much to me, yet these words are overlooked by many in the world.
I am on a journey to seeking God-given femininity, radiance in Christ, and a tender, gentle, and humble soul that breathes Jesus into the lives of others, because femininity is an amazing thing that I advocate for, but being a woman who breathes Jesus into all of those around her is a woman who is virtuous in God’s sight, and at the root of my desire is Jesus and His glory.
Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman, a woman who is virtuous, kind, loving, graceful, and Christlike. Proverbs 31 are the words I echo when in my deepest prayers, for that chapter is a chapter that speaks to my soul, for that woman is who I want to be; a woman of unshakable faith and radiance. As the Proverbs 31 woman was, I want to be a gentle woman to a man, a loving mother to children, and an aid to those who need help, and being a feminine woman is just the beginning to who I am, because there is much more too me underneath the surface, which contains a love for Christ that is never-ending.
I do, however, want to encourage other women to embrace femininity and beauty within God’s design. I want to encourage radiance, I want to show women that femininity is beautiful, femininity is never wasted, and being a woman who seeks God above all is a woman who is praised. I do not want to be a regular twenty-something year old, I never do, for I wasn’t created to fit the same mold, I was meant to stand out. I want to be a woman who’s life is a testament to a kind answer, to seasoned speech, to grace, and to a love for Christ that expounds in every storm, battle, and mountain.
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
I want God to use me in the lives of everyone who walks by me, interacts with me, and so forth, for we all go through storms, broken time, and struggles, and if God can use me to make their day better, then I want it to be Him that is seen, because I do not shine for my glory, but it is for His glory that I am a radiant woman who is a light on a hill. Though I love femininity, no amount of feminine products or dainty things can achieve the radiance that is found in Jesus, for when you drink deeply from the well, the radiance that you shall obtain can never be competed with, for that radiance is Christ living within you.
So here I am, feminine, unashamed, but am humbled by Christ and His suffering, for through Him, I I am a daughter of the King who is not moved by the world, I am a woman who seeks to be radiant, not because of the outside, but because of her love for Christ, and I seek to be a woman who is tender in a world that is harsh, I seek to be gentle in a world that is loud and chaotic, and I seek to be like Christ in a world that does not know Him.
I might not ever be like the Proverbs 31 woman to an exact replica, and I might fail at times, I might fall down, and there will be times where the last thing I will want to do is be like her, but I shall, because in God’s design, I was created to be a soft, gentle, woven, and helpful woman who does not think, “What can I get,” but rather, “How may I serve others?”
I am a feminine woman, but my femininity expounds pasts the dresses and the perfume, but it is my heart. I want people to remember me by my actions, my gentleness, and my love for Christ rather than what I am on the outside, for my outside shell will fade, it will go away, and I will not be the woman I am now years from now, and that is okay, but my heart, the heart that seeks Christ and His Kingdom, will forever shine, for the beauty of a gentle and meek spirit shall never fade.
I want to be a woman who is understanding, I want to be a woman who whispers tenderness into the lives of others, who will take the hand of another person and show them Christ. I yearn to look into their eyes and tell them that Jesus is worth it, and to be this woman, I must first be that way to Christ. I must fall in love with Jesus daily, I must understand my need for Him daily, I must grow in Him, and I must continuously seek Him.
“I will bless the Lord at all times;
His praise shall continually be in my mouth.
My soul shall make its boast in the Lord;
The humble shall hear of it and be glad.
Oh, magnify the Lord with me,
And let us exalt His name together.” Psalm 34:1-3
To be more like the Proverbs 31 woman, who was a virtuous wife and mother, I want to be a help-meet to a man and tender to my future children. To be more like her, I want to be a woman who will show them that Jesus is worth it, to show them that someone is encouraging them, rooting for them, and is soft and gentle towards them they walk the narrow path, for the Proverbs 31 woman was always alert in her household, and her lamp never went out.
Therefore, I want to be a feminine woman such as the Proverbs 31 woman, but most importantly, I want to be a woman who seeks truth, a woman who breathes Jesus into the lives of others, and one who is kind, tender, and is like Christ. It will not be easy at times, but no matter what mountain I arrive at, I shall climb it, I shall continue to be the woman God wants me to be, and I will allow God to shape me into the woman He needs me to be, but also the woman that the man I will marry needs me to be for him.
“Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
This life is not about me, it never was; it’s about Christ and others, and so I want to be the Proverbs 31 woman who breathes grace into the lives of others. I don’t want to speak harshly, for I want to speak with wisdom, and I do not want to be one who gives up, but I want to be as the Proverbs 31 woman who never grows tired, but is always alert.
Therefore, I am on a journey, a journey of femininity, radiance, and a journey of being a Proverbs 31 woman who’s a light on a hill. As C.S Lewis once said, “Don’t shine so that others can see you, shine so that through you, others can see Him,” and that’s the life I want to live; a life that reflects Christ in all things, a life that shows that grace and mercy are His greatest gift, and I want to show that being a feminine woman who embraces the design of Proverbs 31 is not a woman who is “taboo,” but is a woman who seeks to be more than the outer shell, but to be what God wants her to be, which is radiant in Him.
Oh, Lord, my life is yours, and may I be an encouragement to someone one day soon, because in this world filled with hurting people. Use me to show them that your grace is sufficient by making me the Proverbs 31 woman, for she is who I want to be, and I do not want to be anything less, for she is a woman that my heart seeks to become, and no matter how much molding and shaping I must go through, let me be like her so that I might be an encouragement, a helper, and a light on a hill. In Jesus’ name, Amen.