I love being a feminine woman, and I love feeling classy, elegant, and feminine. I love wearing my sweet and floral perfume. I love putting ribbons in my hair, wearing dainty earrings, and twirling around in my favorite green dress, and I believe in smiling rather than choosing to be “seductive,” for seduction only gets you so far. I want to be a radiant woman rather than being known as “seductive,” for while seduction is normal in marriage, I do not want to show that off for the entire world, for beauty and elegance is found in my heart, and my heart is what I want shown.
I love being a woman; a feminine woman. No one forced me to be feminine, no one threw a book at my head and said, “You have to be this, this, and this,” but I truly choose to be feminine and dainty, for I believe femininity is dying in our society.
I have had so many women ask me, “How can you be so feminine,” but I never really thought of being feminine as a “challenge,” for it’s who I am. If you were to take femininity away from me, then you would be taking a big part of who I am away.
Femininity was created by God; therefore, I am going to embrace being a feminine woman regardless of whether it is “praised” or not by the world.
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
I am feminine, and I am okay with that. You can never be “too feminine,” for femininity is femininity. God created me in His image, God made me a woman, and I am going to embrace that. It is okay if people look at me weird, for I do not seek to fit into a certain mold, for at the end of the day, my identity comes from Christ, and He says I am worth more than rubies; therefore, I am going to be confident in my identity in Christ.
I am a daughter of the King who is not moved by the world, I am justified and redeemed, I am saved by grace, and I am a feminine woman made in the image of God, so do I really care about the approval of people when God says His approval is all I need? No, and this is why it is easy for me to be feminine, for femininity is a part of who I am, and I do not need validation from the world to feel like I am something, for Jesus said I was worth dying for.
In 2019, being feminine has died, and it is truly sad to see. Women have traded their gentle spirits for the spirit of loudness, women have given up their femininity, women have given up their meekness, and as modern day feminism keeps rising, the more femininity continues to die.
I have made it known before, but I do not believe in modern day feminism for various reasons. I am pro-life, I want to be a homemaker, I desire a husband and children, and most importantly, I do not want to give up my femininity and gentleness.
I believe that there is a time to speak, but also a time to not speak. I believe in having a tender heart and not resorting to insults or anger infused conversations, and I believe in listening to others with the intent to listen rather than with the intent to reply. Within our world today, people want to always prove others wrong, have the last word, and we live in a horrid world where if you think differently than the world, you are instantly attacked and ridiculed.
“She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15
Being a feminine woman is not a crime nor is it wrong, for God says I am perfectly and wonderfully made. I do not have to be loud to be heard, I do not have to be reckless to get things done, and I do not have to break glass ceilings to be something in life. While having an amazing career is great, I am not about money, fame, or recognition. I am just a part-time Kindergarten teacher who wants to get married, have children, and be a home school, mini-van mom, so I could care less about glass ceilings, for a glass ceiling cannot define me, only Christ can.
The world has placed worth on monetary things, on job titles, and on works, yet grace is by faith, not works or good deeds. No amount of good deeds, works, or job titles can compare to a relationship with Christ; therefore, while the world finds worth in things that will fade away, I want to be a woman who chases truth, who is gentle, tender, and who lives in grace.
Femininity derives from a gentle and meek spirit, not the outside shell
As mentioned, I do not agree with modern day feminism, for modern day feminism is harsh, unforgiving, loud, and against God in many ways. I want to be a woman with a tender heart, I want to be a voice for the unborn, and I want to be a meek woman, not a woman who is marching down the streets fighting for worldly things. I want to be a woman who brings grace to the table, not a harsh demeanor. I want to be joyful and have Christ shining within me, and modern day feminism has kicked Jesus out.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26
I want to seek to understand even if understanding is difficult, I want to be able to be a shoulder that someone can cry on, I want to be graceful to others, I want to be a prayer warrior for others, and I want to be a person who’s speech is seasoned with grace. I want to share Christ with others, I want to share His sacrifice, love, goodness, and grace with others, and I want to be so much like the Proverbs 31 woman, that anyone in my life will see Jesus shining within me.
To be like Jesus, I must be selfless, I must be joyful, I must be loving, I must be gentle, I must be meek, I must be the bigger person, I must bare the truth, and I must speak truth and have truth written on my heart. If I want to be a godly woman, I must uphold myself in dignity, truth, kindness, and wisdom. I must place all selfishness behind me, I must seek Christ rather than the world, and I must seek to uphold His Word over the world.
“Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
Being a feminine woman is not just looking the part, but it is acting the part. Being a feminine woman means having a gentle soul, being graceful, elegant, and being modest. Modesty does not mean you are ashamed of your body, but modesty means that you know your worth is found in Christ, not your body. Modesty means clothing yourself with dignity and strength, and modesty does not only mean dressing elegantly, but it means acting modestly too.
Being a feminine woman means having an inner beauty that is indestructible. Being a feminine woman means having a humble outlook, a gentle and quite spirit, and a soul that seeks God. The outside of a person does not compare to the heart of a person, for the heart is what God looks at; therefore, true femininity derives from the heart. Are you seeking God? Are you compassionate? Are you speaking in a seasoned way? Are you being tender and graceful? Are you meek, and do you embrace your worth in Christ? This is what femininity is, and the outside is just the byproduct of what is in the inside; therefore, femininity is found in the soul of a woman, not just in how she dresses or looks.
I want my daughters to have a godly and feminine role model rather than having a “Modern day feminist” role model
I want my future daughters to embrace their femininity as well. I want them to be loving, to be graceful, to be meek, and to love Jesus above all else. I want them to enjoy being a girl, to enjoy being a lady, and to understand that they are worth more than rubies. If they want to wear a dress one day and feel like a princess, then I will not say “no.” If they want to put my heels on and play dress up, I will not stand in their way, and if they want to be wives and mothers when they get older, I am not going to tell them “no,” for being a wife and a mother is not “evil.” but if they want to be teachers, doctors, or whatnot, then I will not tell them “no” to that either.
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” 1 Timothy 4:12
I want to be a role model for my children, an inspiration, and a godly and feminine mother. I want my daughters to be feminine, to be little girls, and to embrace being a woman. I am not going to allow modern day feminism make my future daughters feel as if there is something wrong with being feminine, for there is nothing wrong with femininity. God is going to make my future daughters in His image, and I refuse to allow a group make them feel as if they are not “good enough” the way they are.
In order for my future daughters to see their worth, they need a mother who is living proof of that. I want to constantly show my future daughters that radiance in Christ is better than being praised by the world. I want to show my future daughters how to be graceful, kind, sweet, and feminine rather than being the “ideal model” that the world has projected, and I want my future daughters to become godly women who will embrace femininity as young women.
I want that for them, but I must be feminine if I want them to be feminine women; therefore, not only am I feminine because I embrace it, but I am feminine because of the people who will one day be in my life. I want my future daughters to look back in photo albums and know that I was a feminine woman. I do not want them to look through photo albums and find their mother as a “modern day feminist,” but I want them to look back and see a woman who was graceful, feminine, godly, and a woman who didn’t feel the need to follow the crowd.
“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-5
Femininity is not a sin, nor is it a crime. I will never agree with the approaches of modern day feminism, and I will never give into the lies they portray. I do not have to take down men or prove them wrong to feel good about myself, for if you have to put someone down or constantly prove them wrong to “feel good,” then what does that say about your character?
I do not want that, nor do I want that for my future daughters. I embrace femininity, I embrace a gentle and quite soul, and I embrace having a simple life filled with a future husband and children, for there is nothing wrong with that. I am feminine, and I hope to inspire other women to live confidently in His design, for in His design there is radiance, joy, and peace. Even if the world laughs and carries on, I shall be a woman who seeks truth, elegance, and femininity, for I want to laugh with no fear of the future, for my trust is safely in His hands.
If you want to wear that dress, wear it. If you want to embrace femininity, then do it, for you are a woman and are feminine. If you want to be gentle rather than being loud, then you most certainly can.
If you want to be known for your heart rather than being known for “riches, fame, or recognition,” then be known for your heart, for God will remember you for your meek and gentle heart rather than the money and fame you achieved. Embrace femininity, embrace being a woman, and never let anyone tell you that being feminine is wrong, for there is nothing wrong with being what God created a woman to be.