The other day as I was doing my Bible study while I was drinking the last of my coffee, I was reading Proverbs 31 for the 1,000th time. It is no secret that my biggest aspiration is to be like the Proverbs 31 woman, for she is a woman who fears the Lord, who’s husband fully trusts her, who’s children call her blessed, and who is kind, wise, and compassionate. Not to mention, her godliness, gentle spirit, and humility are the things I pray to obtain no matter the situation I may potentially be faced with.
When I read Proverbs 31, I always find myself praying for God to shape me into this woman no matter how uncomfortable I have to become in order to be her. In the world we live in, the Proverbs 31 woman has decreased while sin has increased. Hearts are becoming hardened, people feel the need to be in the middle of the sin cycle, in the middle of the chaos, and many choose the wide path rather than the narrow path.
I do not seek to only be a Christian woman, but I want to be a Christian woman who is in love with Jesus, who is a godly woman, who is seeking to be the Proverbs 31 woman, and who places God above all. I want people to see Christ within me, I want my countenance to show everlasting joy, and I want others to know that I am not apart of the world, for I am following God. No matter how narrow the path is, I choose to walk it, for at the end of the path is Jesus, and to Him I shall run.
“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey,
And her mouth is smoother than oil;
But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death,
Her steps lay hold of hell.
Lest you ponder her path of life—
Her ways are unstable;
You do not know them.” Proverbs 5:3-6
However, we live in a society that glorifies the woman found in Proverbs 5, which is the opposite of the Proverbs 31 woman. The Proverbs 5 woman is one who’s words drip with honey, who uses her outer beauty for her own gain, who is wanted and envied, yet her ways are bitter, her ways are unstable, and her heart is rotten within the eyes of God. This is the woman society promotes, and the more rotten her ways become, the more the world adores her.
The Proverbs 5 woman is a woman who is “seductive,” not in the marriage bed, but with the sins of the world. She is the woman who has a way with words, the woman who takes residence with sin, and the woman who is known for her sexuality, yet this woman is what God warns men of. He urges men to not stand one foot near her house and to not allow her any room into their lives, for when you give the immoral woman room in your life, she will destroy you by bringing her into her unstable and ungodly ways, and no amount of outer beauty will ever be worth it if the ways of a person does not reflect Christ.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
However, society loves the Proverbs 5 woman. This woman is the model for the wide path, the things that the world promises, and she takes heart in the pleasures that are temporary. God warns godly men to stay away from her, for though she may be “beautiful,” beauty and charm are deceitful, for she does not fear the Lord. On the other hand, the Proverbs 31 woman is praised not in the world’s eyes, but in God’s eyes, for she fears the Lord, she loves the Lord, and she glorifies Him.
“Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
The Proverbs 5 woman and the Proverbs 31 woman show you what a godly woman is versus what a godly woman isn’t. The Proverbs 31 woman clothes herself in dignity and strength while the Proverbs 5 woman uses her seduction for her gain. The Proverbs 31 woman is worth more than rubies who is faithful, loving, and fears the Lord while the Proverbs 5 woman is deceitful, manipulative, and has no disregard for God and His mercy.
“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
The Proverbs 31 woman thinks not of herself, but of the safety of her household while the Proverbs 5 woman thinks of only what she can get rather than worrying about the needs of others. When looking at what the world supports and then looking at what God calls “godly,” I seek to be the woman God wants me to be, for I want to be a woman who seeks truth rather than the world.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26
I want to be a woman who is beautiful because of her love for Jesus, not for her “smooth words” or charm. I want to be the woman who has kindness written on her tongue and who opens her mouth with wisdom rather being a woman who’s ways are unstable, and I want to be the woman who’s ways are rooted in truth rather than be the woman who’s ways lead to destruction.
“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?” Mark 8:36-37
Though the Proverbs 31 woman is not the woman you see promoted by the world, I will still aspire to be her regardless of the lack of support from the world, for I would rather be a fool to the world than be a fool to God. What does it profit a man if he gains the while world but loses his own soul? What good does it do a person if everyone on this earth loved them, yet that person did not love the one person who could save their soul? What good does it do someone to be apart of the world when this world will dissolve like snow?
“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.” Galatians 2:20
When I gave my life to Christ, it was Him that began to live within me, so all I do is for His glory; therefore, the woman I want to be is a woman who fears God, who is in love with God, and who is saturated in the truth of the Bible. I want to be so on fire for Jesus that anyone in my life will want to be on fire for Him too, and I want to be so consumed with Jesus that a man has to go through God to get to me.
Cliche, I know, for that quote has been used many times, but it is quite true. My heart is consumed with God, consumed in His mercy, grace, and goodness, that I can never get enough of it. Each morning when I rise, I seek Him in His Word, and I will never be able to get enough. Each day, I seek to be a light on a hill, for many are in need of His grace, for His grace cans set even the darkest heart free from the chains of bondage.
“The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:11-12
Therefore, I want to be the Proverbs 31 woman. I pray to be a godly wife who’s future husband never has to question my loyalty and who never has to question my morals or my love for God. I pray to be the godly mother who’s light never goes out and who never eats the bread idleness, and I want to be the woman who’s love for God is what makes her ultimately beautiful, for though the outside beauty may fade, a heart that is in love with Jesus shall never fade.
So Lord, make me into the Proverbs 31 woman, make me a woman who seeks truth rather than a woman who seeks the world, for though this world has placed the Proverbs 5 woman on a pedestal, that pedestal will one day fall, and I do not want to be there to watch it fall, so Lord, make my foundation built on rock, not sand, for I seek to be rooted in truth, grace, and mercy rather than in the world’s temporary pleasures.
I may only be one woman, but I seek that God makes me a woman who’s faith is unshakable and who’s love for Him is never-ending, so Lord, make me the Proverbs 31 woman so that I may glorify you in all that I do.