Do you ever wonder what you could say to your children if you could? I know I think of this a lot! I’ve been writing letters to my future husband since I was 15, I’ve been praying for him, and I also pray for my future children and that they accept Christ and become godly young adults one day. I truly think about my future in many ways, for I pray for the arrival of those who will one day, hopefully soon, be in my life.
However, there is one important thing that many young women do not realize; they are going to be a role model to their daughters while their sons will be wanting to be just like their fathers, and while I will be the upmost and godly mother to both my sons and daughters, I know that my future little girls will look at me and say, “Mommy, I want to be just like you” while my sons look at their father and say the same to him.
If I want my future daughters to be Proverbs 31 Women, I must also be a Proverbs 31 Woman now.
Though I am single, I still live like the Proverbs 31 Woman, for this world is filled with many women who go along with the words of Proverbs 5. The Bible warns men to stay away from the Immoral Woman as described in Proverbs 5, for she uses her words, seduction, and other tactics for her own lusts and pleasures. She is not seeking godliness, she is not seeking to place God above all, and her heart is intertwined with the world rather than what is good in the eyes of God.
“My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
Lend your ear to my understanding,
That you may preserve discretion,
And your lips may keep knowledge.
For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey,
And her mouth is smoother than oil;
But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.” Proverbs 5:1-4
The Proverbs 5 woman is the woman that I pray my daughters do not become, but if I want my daughters to be virtuous girls who chase after Jesus, I must be that godly role model. I must be a woman who seeks Jesus, I must be a woman who seeks to be the Proverbs 31 woman, and I must make sure that I am living my life for God in the most glorifying way possible, for one day, I will have future children looking at my every move, and children remember every little thing you do, so I must be godly now if I want to teach my children the same.
I am quite sure we have heard this line before, “If you did it, then I can too,” and every parent will hear this at least once in their years of parenting; however, due to this infamous line, I am being cautious as a young woman now, for what I do now will be examined in the future in some way, shape or form.
Therefore, I am always placing myself under examination. Are my actions godly? Am I gentle, am I temperate, are my desires what God would approve of, and am I living in according to Proverbs 31 and Titus 2? Am I on my way to being a godly wife one day, am I on my way to being a godly mother one day, and am I glorifying God to the highest extent that I am able to? These are the questions I am constantly asking myself, for I want to ensure that I am staying alert in God, I want to ensure that I am seeking God, and I want to ensure that my actions now will not haunt me in the future.
If I want my daughters to be girls clothed in dignity and strength, I must be that same woman now as well.
“Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
If I want to teach my future daughters to be clothed in dignity and strength, then I must be clothed ind dignity and strength as well, for I cannot expect to place this upon my future daughters if I am not living the exact principles that I am instilling into them. As a part-time Kindergarten teacher, I know from experience that children copy what they see, for they watch every single move you make. Not only that, but they also repeat what their parents say, they act like their parents, and when I ask the five year old girls what they want to be when they are older, they almost always say, “I want to be just like my mommy.”
With that being known, my children will learn from me not only by my instruction or words, but from how I uphold myself and how I live my everyday life. They will see how I respond to those around me, they will see how I love the Lord, they will see how I am applying the Word to my life, and they will see the actions and the fruit I am baring rather than my words alone. They will ask me questions on how I was before I was married to their future father, they will ask me questions on how I acted before they were born, and so forth; therefore, I want to be able to tell them that I was in love with Jesus and that I was clothed in His strengthen, not mine.
As a young woman, I am clothed with dignity and strength not only because God tells me too, but because I want too, and on a more serious note, I do so for I know that one day, my future daughters will be looking at the woman I am right now and asking me questions about the woman I am right now in this very moment. The woman I want them to see a woman who is godly, dignified, and wholesome rather than a young woman who is reckless and chaotic.
If I want my future daughters to accept Christ, I must be an example to them
“Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
Though I am getting my degree, my biggest desire is to be a stay-at-home mom who home-schools, for I’ve always wanted to home-school, which is another reason why I am getting a degree in teaching. I want to be able to not only teach them English, Math, History, and the other subjects, but I want to be able to incorporate godly lessons, Bible lessons, and so forth so that they are being raised up in truth, for if you train up a child in the way they should go, they will not depart from it.
My biggest fear is that I will fail as a mother in this department, for I cannot save my children, for they have to decide to follow Christ on their own for God grants everyone free will. Deep down, I am terrified of my some of my future children denying Christ and going off a deep end, and I am quite sure everyone has this fear in their hearts, but as a single woman now, I am going to try to counteract this by making sure I am a light that is on a hill.
““You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. 16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16
I will be a light on a hill who shares not only the truth of God’s Word, but I also want to show the realness of the cross. Christ was beaten, mocked, rejected, and suffered greatly for us, and we did nto deserve it. All of our sin placed Jesus on the cross, yet He still loved us. He suffered so you and I did not have too, He drank from the cup that was meant for us to drink, and He did what no other person can do, for He is God; therefore, as a single woman, and as a future mother one day, I am going to be an example, a light for Christ, and I want Christ to be the one shinning throughout me.
I want to be so on fire for God, that my children cannot deny that God is real, for they will see Him in all that I do. They will see Him in my eyes, my heart, my countenance, and in my love for them; therefore, as a single woman, I shall love others, I shall be kind, I shall pick up my cross , and I shall dedicate my life for Him, for you cannot deny the radiance of a person who is in love with Jesus, and I want my children to look at me and say, “She has Jesus, and there is no denying that.”
If my want my future daughters to marry godly men, then I must marry a godly man as well
This one is quite important, for my second biggest prayer on the lives of my future daughters is that they marry godly men who will lead them closer to Christ together, but in order for this to occur, they must have an example to see, which is why I seek a godly man who will not only love me as a godly husband, but will be a godly father to our future children. I want him to be able to be an example of what a man of God looks like, and though he may fail at times, I want him to be an example of what an imperfect man saved by grace is,
Therefore, my future marriage is going to become a big part of my children’s lives, for they will see how my future husband and I interact, they will see how much we love each other, and they will see how in love with God with are. I want my future marriage with my future husband to be an example of what a strong godly marriage is, I want my future husband to not only be an example of what a godly man is to our daughters, but what a godly man should be to our sons; and when turning the tables at the woman I am, I want to be the the example of what a godly woman looks like so my sons can pursue that kind of woman when they are grown.
“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
Many single women do not think along the lines such as I, but these are the gentle prayers of my heart. I pray for a godly husband who is an amazing father to our children, and I also pray for amazing children who grow up to become godly women and men, and while this post was directed at my future daughters, I have many words I would want to say to my future sons, and I am already in love with the family that has not been brought to me yet, and one day, I will look back on these years and think of the many times I have prayed for my future family, and when I am blessed with a future family, my prayers will not cease there, but they will have just began.
These are my prayers for my future daughters, and I pray that I can be the godly example that they need in their future lives.