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The misconception that society puts out is: “You’re modest because you’re too afraid to show your body,” which is completely wrong and flawed. Society likes to put down women who are modest and have dignity, because they want to justify why they are living a life of immodesty. Women who pose nude in magazines, are called beautiful, respected, and so on, but women who dress modestly and respects herself is called prude and “old-fashioned.”
Though society claims that those who are modest are “self-conscious,” they fail to see that beauty is within modesty. I have never, and I will never, feel the need to stoop down to the level of immorality to feel validation, because I am already validated in Christ. My identity is found in Him, and only Him. I do not have to lose dignity and self-worth to make myself “wanted,” and I do not seek satisfaction from temporary sources, for I know that in the end, it will make me shameful and leave me feeling empty.
I am a modest woman because I know my worth is found in Christ, and He says I am worth more
She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15
I am worth more than belittling my worth by immodesty. I do not have to be like Marilyn Monroe and prove that I have a high amount of sex appeal to be “respected” and I do not have to go around trying to please society, because God says that women are worth more than what this world has to offer.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
God says women are beautiful by having a gentle and meek spirit and by being strong in Christ. It doesn’t matter how beautiful you are on the outside, for if your heart isn’t set on Christ, then you have no true source of radiant beauty. There is a difference in being pretty and glowing with inner light and radiance, and that radiance comes from Christ.
Having a strong relationship with Christ will make you more beautiful than anything this world could offer, because at the end of the day, immodesty might get you lustful desires, but it will not give you respect and dignity.
I am a modest woman because my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit
My body does not belong to me. Not only does my body rightfully belong to my future husband, but I am no longer free to do what I want, because since I have given my life over to Christ, my life is His. What I do is for Him and for His glory, and what I do is a representation of Christ.
“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?” 1 Corinthians 6:19
I am now a bondservant of Christ, and my body is a temple where the Holy Spirit resides. I am to be the gatekeeper of my body, and not allow all people access, and immodesty allows anyone to access your body by vision. Your body is not an open house for anyone to see, but it is only meant for one person to see; your future spouse.
No one else has the God given right to see the temple God has made out of you, because when you allow anyone access to that temple, then you are allowing access to sin, brokenness, and destruction, which will harm your testimony as a Christian.
Immodesty does not reflect Christ, but it reflects the world’s satisfaction. You are to be a representation of Christ in all things, in clothing, in speech, in character, and even in what you eat and drink. The world is watching our every move, and you are to please God and not man. Allowing yourself to fall into the trap of immodesty will not only cause you shame down the road, but it can and will cause you to grow further away from God due to you allowing that sin to wage a gap between you and God.
I am a modest woman because I do not have to be immodestly clad to be respected.
I do not have to raise my dress hem 6 inches to be respected, I do not have to lower my neckline 9 inches to be respected, and I do not have to wear sheer clothing to be respected. Respect is given when you respect others back, and you cannot expect to be respected if you cannot respect yourself or others present.
In 2018, respectability is based on how you look and how you dress. The less dressed you are, the more “roles” you land, the more press you get, and the more approvals you receive. You might gain attention when being immodest, but you aren’t gaining respect in the slightest, for those who are giving you attention only look at you out of lust and not out of a respectful nature.
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:29
Respect comes when you respect God and those around you. Modesty and respect go hand in hand, because no mother would want their daughter looking up to a woman who viewed her body as a public display, no job employer would want to hire a woman who was known to have hundreds of nude photos on the internet, and a Christian man would not marry a woman who didn’t respect her body or her walk with Christ.
Respect must be both ways, and if you cannot view your body and your walk with Christ as sacred, then do not expect respect, because respect isn’t a one way street, for you must be respectful to be respected.
I am a modest woman because I am to be an example to girls and my future daughters
When I was a freshman in high school, one mother came up to me and told me that she hoped her daughter was learning from me. Sadly, her daughter had a problem with immodesty, and she was in my class. I then decided to talk with her daughter, sit with her at lunch, and mentor her.
I prayed for her, and when we went to camp that our school orchestrated, she opened up to me about a lot of personal wounds she had, and that was why she was acting out. As Christian women, we are to be examples, to be mentors to other women and little girls, and we are to stand up for Godly Womanhood.
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” 1 Timothy 4:12
You are a living example of Christ and His goodness, so do not tarnish your testimony by immodesty, for immodesty can ruin it faster than anything else can. You might not be able to pinpoint to a person who is looking up to you, but someone is watching you. A little girl is looking up to you and another young woman is looking at you wanting to be like you, so you need to make sure you are living in radiance that if filled with God’s grace.
In a world full of feminists, we need godly women for little girls to have as inspirations. We live in a world full of Kardashians, and girls and young women do not need to be looking at them as something to aspire too, for the Kardashians are the epitome of immodesty.
“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16
We are the light of a world set on a hill, so do not dim that light by following blindly with society. Children love to copy those they see, and a little girl might be trying to be just like you, so do not let that little girl think immodesty is okay, because once a little girl gets the lie of immodesty into her mind, it’ll take a lot of work to get that lie out of her head.
Therefore, I am modest because I do not feel the need to dress in little to nothing to “feel validated,” nor do I have comply with society’s standards to be respected. I am a vessel for God to use, and I do not want to hinder God’s plan for my life by trying to please the world rather than focusing on God. I am to be an example, and in this world, godly examples are needed.
While society might stick to their “plunging necklines” and dresses with slits through the entire dress, I’ll stick with my modest clothing, for I don’t have to dress scandalous to feel like I am “worth something,” because Christ still loved me even though I was still a sinner.
Grace is all I need, so I don’t need to prove a point to the world, because Jesus proved His point of love for me years ago on a cross, and nothing can compete with the grace of God, so why should I have to lose my dignity when God says we are worth more than rubies?