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In a world full of beauty brands, makeup brands, modeling agencies, and products that claim to make you look beautiful in only weeks, it seems as if society has taken the focal point off of true beauty and placed it onto artificial beauty that fades and isn’t lasting, but as society continues to project false misconceptions of beauty, young girls are having their minds filled with false perceptions on what beauty truly is.
When I was a little girl, my mother raised me on these four tips of where true radiance originates from, and it isn’t from a product that you can buy, it isn’t from a catalog, and it isn’t something society will be projecting any time soon due to their mindsets.
True Beauty Originates from a Quiet Spirit
True beauty is found in a soul that is quiet, a soul that is gentle, and a soul that is meek. 1 Peter says that incorruptible beauty is found in the soul of gentleness; therefore, if one seeks God’s definition of beauty, you must be gentle, quiet, and meek. No, this does not make God a ”sexist,” for He says that women are worth more than rubies.
However, in our current climate, our society has forgotten the beauty of gentleness, for we now live in a harsh, forward world that is about “me this” or “me that.” You could be the most beautiful woman on earth, but if your heart and soul is not gentle, quiet, and meek, then your beauty is only surface level. Therefore, strive to have a spirit that is gentle, caring, humble, and still, for that is true beauty.
True Beauty Originates From a Beautiful Heart
The source of a woman’s beauty originates from her heart. Is your heart set on Christ, godly things, pure things, positivity, radiance, joy, love, and nobility, or is your heart set on filth, sin, temptation, negativity, and so forth? A lot of women do not take their hearts into consideration when it comes to beauty. In 2018, society equates beauty as the physical appearance, but that is not true by any means.
Earlier in the semester, a group of random ladies sat next to me in a cafe due to their being no more room, and when they open their mouths to speak, I was left speechless. These ladies followed societal beauty guides religiously, yet they had the most degrading language, talked about having sex bluntly with multiple men, getting drunk, partying, and their hearts were filled with vulgarity and filth.
After hearing these ladies speak, their efforts of maintaining physical beauty was completely worthless due to their actions and hearts, for I viewed them as ladies with ugly hearts instead of ladies who spent hours trying to rise of to society’s standards. These ladies wore proper dresses, had flawless makeup on, had their hair styled, but all of that went to waste due to the ugliness that resided in their hearts.
“For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come.” 1 Timothy 4:8
When you begin focusing more on your outer appearance, your heart begins to deteriorate. You should put godliness over bodily profits due to this very reason. Though people might have a good first impression of you due to your physical beauty, they will never forget you by the way you treat them and act towards them.
Your heart is the powerhouse of your body, and life springs from it, which is why we should guard our hearts. You will not be a beautiful woman if your heart isn’t radiant in Christ, and though your clothes and makeup might get you likes and praises, people will instantly think differently when they see an ugly heart.
Beauty Comes from A Beautiful Soul
Sadly, kindness is one of those things we no longer see in 2018. Negativity is everywhere, we walk around with frowns, we judge others from their appearances, and we do not take into consideration the stories of those around us. A person sitting next to you could be fighting something, going through the death of a loved one, and so forth, so always be kind. Beauty comes from a kind soul and from a person who makes sure that others are taken into consideration before herself.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26
Always be loving towards people even if they aren’t kind and loving towards you, for your acts of kindness may be the one thing that convicts their hearts of their wrongdoings. Beauty isn’t just in what makeup products you wear, but it’s how you treat the person next to you. Do you smile at others even if their expressions are stone-cold? Do you lend your seat when there are no more seats in a filled room? Do you allow a person to eat lunch with you when there is no one else around to sit with?
When you are kind, your soul radiates with beauty and light. Kindness is what people will remember you by the most, so make kindness your top prerogative. People will not remember you by what clothes you wear, but they will remember you by how you loved them and made them feel appreciated and welcomed.
Beauty Comes From a Strong Love For Christ
““You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16
We are considered a light on a hill, and we cannot be a bright light if we dim ourselves by being far away from Christ. You cannot expect your heart to be where it’s supposed to be without you willingly asking God for conviction. If you’re prayer life is weak, then don’t expect your heart to be filled with things of godliness and virtue.
When you see yourself falling away from your walk with Christ, things that this world project will become more enticing, and once you fall into that web of sin and temptation, your beauty becomes blemished due to all of the clutter that is in your heart. Your heart then turns into something it never should have been, your desires change, and this also causes your entire outlook to change. Once you allow society to take ahold of your life, it will destroy you, for that’s it’s ultimate goal.
Beauty comes from a woman who puts her faith solely in Christ and who depends on Him. When one’s heart is filled with Scripture and godly things, then those things produce beauty, radiance, and happiness that goes on for eternity. As you look past the facade that the world has put into place, then you realize that you are worth more than artificial beauty, and your worth goes deeper than the surface.
Beauty Comes From Selflessness
Selfishness brings forth entitlement, which is what America is full of. We have people screaming for things that they believe they are entitled to, when in all actuality, they are entitled to nothing. In retrospect, we aren’t even worthy of the grace of God, but Christ still died for us for He loved us! He loved us so much, that He wanted us to have grace, which is the most selfless act in all of history!
A woman with a selfish heart will not be a good wife and will not be a good mother. Instead, a selfish woman will only think of her needs and wants first instead of the needs of those who are important to her. A selfish mentality is of a woman who is immoral. She seeks what “she wants,” and she gets “what she want,” but once she is done with what she wanted, she moves onto her next prey. Though she seems to be beautiful, her ways are unstable and are truly destructive.
“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey,
And her mouth is smoother than oil;
But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death,
Her steps lay hold of hell.
Lest you ponder her path of life—
Her ways are unstable;
You do not know them.” Proverbs 5:3-14
Young men are advised against this type of woman, because though they are physically beautiful, their hearts are rotten and full of deceit. Deceit does not produce radiance or beauty, and selfishness leaves you heartless and selfish. Inward beauty is produced by the fruits you are producing, and one bad apple can spoil the entire barrel, which is why you must make sure you are not letting any selfishness or corrupted habits into your heart, for that will destroy your entire foundation in Christ.
“She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.” Proverbs 31:20
A Proverbs 31 Woman is known to be kind, and she thinks of those around her more than herself. She helps others without them even asking. She doesn’t wait for someone to ask for help, for she helps when she sees or sense that something is wrong.
Her needs come last, for what does it profit if she gains all she wants and loses her own soul? Beauty does not come from a woman who sees the need in making sure she is always made happy and satisfied, but beauty comes from the woman who doesn’t put the spotlight on herself, for she always keeps it on those who matter most to her.
As we live in a world that believes that beauty can be achieved from beautiful hair, makeup, and clothing, we must look at the real issues, which is the heart. Though one may be beautiful on the outside, people will remember that person for the way the acted and treated others. No one will remember you for what you wore, but they will remember you from how you upheld yourself.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
Begin to look at your heart and see if there are any traits there that are conflicting with God’s definition of true beauty. True beauty, in God’s book, is a woman who purposely and intentionally seeks His heart without ceasing, who puts her full trust into Him, who is joyful, radiant, selfless, and has a servant’s heart. That is true beauty in the eyes of God, and a woman of that beauty is worth more than this world could ever afford.
Looks might get you some places, but it won’t get you far, for they will fade and run out. When your looks fade, what are you left with? Are you left with a beautiful heart or are you left with clutter? Instead of following those beauty guides, ask God to convict your heart, for that’s the area that truly need the makeover.
Beauty is passing and fleeting very quickly, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised; therefore, make sure your heart is always where it should be, for once your heart begins going downhill, so will your walk with Christ, and in 2018, we need to cling to Christ more than we ever have before, for this world is only getting more crazy and time is getting even more short.