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If I could go throw my entire 7 years of being a Christian, I could recollect some of the most craziest things I have been asked or told, but as I’ve gotten older, I realize how lost this world is. Since I am now stepping out into life as a young adult, I see how much corruption, evil, lies, slander, and promiscuity that is roaming around searching for a new victim.
No wonder my parents sheltered me so much; they din’t want me around that, and I so thankful that I was hidden from half of the things that I now see a lot.
Just because I’m young, doesn’t mean I’m weak in Christ
I’m 20 years old, I am just starting in life, and everyone else has probably passed milestones that I haven’t passed yet, but just because I am young, does not mean I am negligent to Christ.
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” 1 Timothy 4:12
My age does not restrict me from loving Christ or learning more about Him, because God hasn’t ever told me “Christina, you’re only 20, so I’m not going to teach you about this yet.” Not once has God ever told me that, but instead, God didn’t care how young I was, because as long as I am yearning to know more about Him, He will guide me through the Word, He will guide me in truth, and He will not limit how much He will teach me.
Sure, I might be a very young woman, but I don’t let my age stop me from seeking more of Christ. I will be honest; I don’t know everything! In fact, I have so much learning left to go, I have so many more lessons to learn, and my life has just begun, but I don’t want to feel like I am “not up to par” due to my age, for in God’s eyes, we are all His children instead of chronological numbers.
Just because I am redeemed, does not mean I am “perfect.”
Those who aren’t Christians, normally think that we are “perfect,” and is far from the truth. Just because we follow Christ, does not mean we are perfect and “holier than thou.” We are Christians because we recognize our need of a Savior, our need for grace, our need for salvation, and that through our weakness, we are made strong in Christ.
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Christians aren’t Christians because they are “perfect” or “flawless,” but we are Christians because due to our imperfections, we can be made whole through the Son, we can be justified and redeemed through Him, and we have a way to have a relationship with God.
God doesn’t want robots, but He wants a relationship with us, and if we were “perfect,” then Christ wouldn’t have to die for us. Due to the perfect and blameless Son of God dying for us in the most gruesome way possible, that is proof enough that we are far from perfection.
Just because I am a modest woman, does not mean I am “frumpy.”
This one might only be able to be related more to the ladies, but a lot of women in society believe that modest means frumpy, and that is not true. Are there churches that believe that? Yes, because the church I went too from eighth grade to Sophomore year of high school was full of this teaching.
This church believed that women had to wear skirts to her ankles, could not wear makeup, jewelry, and the list of “do not’s” continued into extremities. My best friend at the time was apart of this church, so I went with her, and I was so confined.
I felt like my faith was determined based on the length of my skirt rather than what was in my heart.
“rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:4
Modesty is not about how long your skirt can be, but it’s about respecting your body and viewing yourself as worth more than showing it off. When you find confidence in Jesus Christ, you don’t need to show off your body to feel validated.
However, Christian women are supposed to be modest, but you can be both modest and cute at the same time without having to look “frumpy.”
Just because I am saving myself for marriage, does not mean I am “clueless about love”
In regards to my last post, this is the one thing I encounter a lot. People think that love is purely sex, and that is false perception perceived from society. Sex is the reward of two married people being in love and who waited to stand before God before giving into their desires.
“She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15
I am waiting because I am worth more than this society, I am worth more than a guy taking something from my husband, and I am worth more than being thrown away. Song of Solomon warns us to not awaken love at the wrong time; therefore, you don’t have to have sex with 5 people to know what love is.
Lust is not love, because love has nothing to do with the lustful desires. If you want to find out what love is, look at the man who hung on a cross for you.
Just because I strive to be a Proverbs 31 Woman, does not mean I am against higher education
A lot of women like to think that I bash women due to me wanting to be a stay-at-home mom one day to take care of my children and husband as my first priority, and this breaks my heart. I support women going to college, and just because I made a personal choice for my life does not mean I am making it for all women.
If you want to go to medical school, go for it!
If you want to go to law school, go for it!
If you want to get your PhD, go for it!
I have nothing against a woman being in college, because I am currently a young woman who is in college right now, so I think it’s somewhat impossible for me to be against women in higher education when I am seeking higher education myself.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
Me choosing to be a stay-at-home mom one day is my choice, and I understand what comes with that choice, but I do not force all women to do that, for God might be leading them somewhere else; however, this is my choice, and I know this is what God personally has for me.
Just because I have high standards, does not mean I’m being “uptight”
A few guys, who aren’t Christians, would say that I am an “uptight girl” who has “too many standards for what she wants in a man.” In the past, I did get asked out by guys who I knew were not God’s best, so I kindly and graciously told them “I don’t think this will work,” and they think it’s due to me being ‘uptight.”
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14
I am not an uptight girl, but when it comes to dating, I want to date a man who has the highest possibility of leading me into marriage. I refuse to date with no intention. Take this analogy for example. When you go to the mall, you normally do not go with the intention of not buying something, but you go to the mall when you want to buy something.
I view dating in a similar light. I do not date if I do not have intentions, but I date with intentions that will lead to marriage. If you go shopping with no intentions, you leave empty handed and upset that you didn’t get anything out of it, but when you date with purpose, you leave with a man who has a high potential of being Mr. Right.
Therefore, I am looking for a godly man who has husband-like qualities, for I date intentionally instead of carelessly.
Lastly, just because I’m a Christian, does not mean I have everything figured out
Though I have joy, I trust Christ, and I am fervent in prayer, that does not mean I have everything figured out. I get stressed, I get scared at times, I freak out, and I find myself begging God for answers. There are times were all I can do is back away from the situation and trust God while I look at the unknown.
I refuse to make it seem like I have everything figured out, for I don’t. There are days where I wake up stressed, but then I have good days. I trust that God has all things working out for me, and that my future is full of hope.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11
Knowing that I will not be lead into disaster gives me joy and peace. There may be pain in the night, but joy always comes in the morning, and though I have no idea what tomorrow holds, I know who holds the future.
Those are the 7 confessions that I personally have on my heart, and I feel like a lot of people can agree with them in many ways. Just because I am a Christian, does not mean I am better than others, it does not mean I am uptight, it does not mean I am frumpy, it does not mean I have it all together, and it does not mean I am holding people back from their dreams.
I am a Christian because without Christ, I would be nothing, but the moment I accepted Jesus, He made me priceless, He gave me value, unending love, and my debts were forgiven, and that is why I follow Christ.