When I was four years old, I used to look at Hollywood, lights, frame, and glamour as if it was a dream. I would dream about being a model or a dancer somewhere in New York. I had my eyes set on bigger dreams, on making myself known, and to be the next one to live the life of glamour.
However, as I got older, I began to see the modeling and dancing industries for who they really were, and I am more than what they offer.
I am more than being idolized for my body.
I am more than being made a sex icon by sex-addicted men who only define me by my body.
I am more than artificial beauty.
I am more than sleeping around with powerful men to get myself to the top of the ladder.
I am more than starving myself just so I can get a solo in a recital.
Dear world, I am more than what you say I am.
The world wants to limit women to make us feel like we need them to survive, and that is flawed. I do not believe in feminism, but I do believe that society wants to make us feel like we need feminism when we truly don’t. In magazines, women’s bodies are praised. In photos women’s appearances are photoshopped to look perfect, and then you have the Kardashians who “act perfect,” who live lives that are idolized, and this causes women to lower their worth to seek their praise.
I am more than that.
I am more than the girl who parades herself in jewelry.
I am more than the girl who thinks she’s better than the woman next to her.
I am more, so do not limit my worth.
I am more than the stereotypical woman,
I am more than the girl who seeks the attention of men,
I am more than the girl who needs material things to feel loved,
I am more than the girl who needs the spotlight,
I am more than that, so don’t make fame, glamour, and promiscuity appealing, for its self-destructive. Fame leaves a person feeling empty, glamour make a person insecure, and sex leaves a person wanting more if it is done outside of the marriage bed. I am more than the girl who gives her body away to every man who comes along, I am more than the girl who needs glamour to feel beautiful, and I do not need fame to be loved by God.
I am more, you are more, so why are we subjecting ourselves to slavery of jealousy and insecurities? As I grew up, girls were pitted against each other due to wanting to be better than each other, and it was the result of the mentality of “You need this to be beautiful” or “You need that to be on top.” In high school, girls were tearing each other down, girls were calling each other “Not pretty enough,” and they went to the ends of the earth to be the “last girl standing” in the battle of the “beauties.”
Is that what society wanted? Did they want females hating each other, hating themselves, and denying the plan God has for them? This is where feminism reared its ugliness, and it gave Satan the ultimate way to be conniving and deceptive. Feminism caused women to become cold and insensitive, and I am more than that.
I am more than feminism.
I am more than the woman who feels the need to put other women down to feel good about herself.
I am more than the girls who gossip.
I am more, and so are you.
I do not need my name in lights to do something, I do not need to have sex with men to feel validated, I do not need to pile my face and body with makeup and jewelry to be “beautiful,” and I do not need to stoop down to the level of society to feel like I am important.
“She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15
God says that we are worth more than rubies and that nothing compares to us. Promiscuity cannot compare to our worth, fame cannot compare, glamour cannot compare, Hollywood cannot compare, New York cannot compare, and nothing can compare to the worth we have, so why give it up to something of little worth?
“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?” Mark 8:36
What does it profit us if we give up our soul? Though you might gain the world, what does it really do you? No matter how much money you have, you’ll always need more. You heart will be restless no matter how many men are in your life, no matter how many diamonds you have, and no matter how much you are worth! You will always want more if Jesus is not the center of your life.
“The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
And strengthen your bones;
You shall be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.” Isaiah 58:11
God is the only one who can satisfy you, which is why you are worth so much more than the temporary pleasures that this earth is projecting. When you stand before the Father, the amount of money you own or the amount of fame you have doesn’t matter in His sight, but what does matter is you made Jesus your Savior and your Redeemer.
I have met so many broken girls who have fallen for the lie of “You are not enough,” and they are purely broken. They cry themselves to sleep, they wonder how they could have gotten this far into darkness, and it breaks my heart into pieces.
You are still enough even if you have fallen, for God is a Father of forgiveness.
You can be made whole,
Your paths can be made straight through Christ.
You can still have a second chance, for nothing you can do can separate you from the love of God.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
Isn’t it amazing? How God can love us even if we go after things that are evil and deceptive? God loves us even when we hurt Him, and I will never be able to thank Him enough for His love. Ladies, you are more in the eyes of God. He sent His Son for you even though you were still lost in sin and darkness.
He loves you, so why chase the temporary pleasures of this world when God is eternal, His Kingdom is eternal, and His Son is eternal. You can have eternal joy, happiness, and love through Him, and that will never go away. You can find validation through Him, you can find purpose through HIm, and that is something society cannot give you.
Sure, you might have temporary relief in the world, but why seek after that when you can find eternal relief in His Son?
You are more, and you will always be more. Don’t envy the woman next to you and don’t put them down to raise yourself up, but build a strong sisterhood that is united in Christ, be a light to this world that is lost, for we are a city on a hill. Instead of being envious of the woman next to you, come together and fight for the real purpose that we find in Jesus Christ, because time is too short for useless bickering and fighting.
Dear society, I am more, and I don’t need your games to feel loved, because love was shed on a cross for me, and that’s all we need to feel validated, so your offer of glitz and glamour has been declined.