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There is a book called, “When God Writes Your Love Story,” and I have currently been re-reading it for the fifth time, for it is a book that has much truth about singleness, dating, and marriage; however, there were times where I was frustrated with singleness, and this book has been quite helpful in those times as well, but my soul was still restess and I could not help but wonder why I wasn’t dating or finding a future husband like the other women I know.
Each week, friends on Facebook had a new boyfriend, changed their boyfriends like underwear, and here I was not even dating. I kept asking God “When is my love story going to start,” “When will the page turn for me,” or “God have you started writing my love story yet?”
I am in my twenties, I have never dated, and even though this is embarrassing, I have not even been on a first date in my life, so as you can imagine, I find myself asking God “When will things happen, Lord,” but I constantly have to remind myself to be patient and trust in Him, but the human side of me began to panic and become flooded with fear.
I began to panic thinking God forgot about me or that God forgot my story, and as I watched other women enter relationships, get married, and have children, I began to worry instead of trusting Christ.
To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:” Ecclesiastes 3:1
Though I pray for my future husband to arrive in my life soon, everything works in His time and does not fail. As I am more into adulthood, I have had several friends get married now, but I choose to remind myself to stay strong in Christ, for God has my love story written, and somewhere on this earth my future husband is praying for me as well as I am praying for him; therefore, I remember to stay strong in Christ, for all things work together for our good.
My mother has always told me “Marry in haste, repent at leisure,” and that is most certainly true. If you jump into a marriage without placing Christ as the foundation or without trusting Him, you will find yourself asking God for a way out, asking for forgiveness, and you’ll be thinking “What did I do?”
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
Instead of holding the pen away from God, I gave it too Him and I prayed to Him about the things I wanted in a man and relationship.
I want a man who is not looking for “another girlfriend,” but I want a man who is looking for a godly wife, and I want a relationship that is built on Jesus Christ, godliness, love, and grace. However, I cannot find a man or a relationship like that if I prevent God from writing the story He has for me. Sure, there were times where I thought “God did you forget to write my love story,” but you don’t know what God has in store for you. Just because someone else is in another season of life does not mean God has forgotten about you.
When I look back at my younger self, I just want to go back to tell myself to slow down, to breathe, and to trust God. I thought my single years would go by very slowly, but they will fly by, for when marriage does occur, I will look back and see how fast the years flew by.
I want to utilize the single years I have left for God’s glory. I need to prepare myself during this time by making sure my walk with Christ is where it should be, and I should making sure I am being a blessing to other people’s lives so I can be an effective blessing to my future husband’s life.
As I read this book, God taught me an ultimate lesson from it. Singleness is not a curse, but singleness gives you a time of preparation for marriage, so don’t hate it, don’t belittle it, but use it to your advantage.
Every story has a prologue, a prelude, and the beginning chapters, and the same is with the love story God is writing for you. You cannot expect the first chapter to be where everything happens, because a good story takes time, and God is not an irrational God.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2-4
Patience and faith produces perseverance, and I know that one day all things will work out for my good, and God has the man I am going to marry on the path to where I am, and God will let my future husband find me when the time is right, and I trust God completely with my future.
God is the Author of love, so why would you prevent God from writing you a wonderful love story? In the meantime while I am single, I will do all I can to worship God, to be a blessing to others, to prepare myself for new seasons, and to pray for the man who is going to marry me.
I might not have any luck in dating, but I don’t care. I would rather only date my future husband than to have my heart broken by a list of ex-boyfriends, for I am only going to marry one man, and if he is the only man who dates me, then I am okay with that, for he is the one who will be my husband, the father to our children, and the man who will grow in Christ with me.
Don’t rush God, for He has all things working out for your good. Sometimes in the back of my mind, I wish I could skip to the end of the book, but you can’t really do that in life, and you have to go day by day. If God says that hope is in your future, then why would you doubt Him when it comes to your love life? Let go, and trust God, because He already knows your entire life story, so why question Him?