I’m going to be a wife one day, and I pray that I do well and that I do not fail the man I marry. I’ve made it known that getting married is one of my biggest desires, but I am patiently waiting as I continue to seek Christ in all I do, but as I wait and seek Christ, I pray about the role God will one day give me, which is being the helper to a man. I have several prayers and several goals that I hope I am to him, and I have several things that I make known to God so that He can mold me into what those prayers are about.
“For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” Matthew 7:8
I make myself vulnerable before God as I pour my heart out to Him when it comes to the wife I one day will be. Being a wife is not just about having a man love you, but it’s about being there through the hard times, being there through the sad times, and being there through thick and thin.
What happens after the honeymoon phase ends? For me, I don’t want to ever lose the love I have for the man I will marry, so I make myself humble before God, and I ask Him to shape me into the wife that best suits the godly man I will marry.
I pray that I am loving in all situations, and that I try to understand all the problems my future husband goes through.
I pray that I am humble, and that I never take my husband for granted, for I know that my husband is a carnal man who could pass away at any moment. I pray that I always appreciate his love, hard work, and concern for me each and everyday that I wake up and go to sleep. I pray that I always let him know how much I love him, and I pray that I never find myself closing off to him.
“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16
I pray that my faith in Christ inspires my future husband to continue to seek Christ. I hope to be a light, an encouragement, and a person who he can vent to when his faith is being shaken up. I pray that my faith stands strong through any rough waves that cause us to walk down rocky paths.
I pray that if my husband were to get hurt, that I would do all in my power to make sure he heals quickly and that he is safe. I pray that if my husband were to do something wrong against me, that I would be able to forgive him and begin to repair the damage that was done. I also pray that if my husband were to find himself into temptation, that I would be there to help him recover out of that pain.
If my husband were to fall into an addiction, I pray that I will have the ability to lovingly tell him that he needs Christ and that I will still stand by his side as he seeks help. If my husband were to fall ill, I pray that I will be by his hospital side every night while I sit there and pray for his recovery, and I pray that I will be the best wife he could have ever asked for.
I pray that even on days where my children are crying, yelling, and screaming, I will not take any frustration out on my husband, because he didn’t do anything wrong. I pray that I am a godly wife, a Proverbs 31 woman, and that my husband never doubts my abilities or my love for him.
I have many prayers for the wife that I will open day be. I have made it know about the things I want from him, but these are the things I expect out of myself, I could sit here and write all the things I one day hope to have, but marriage is not about “receiving,” but it about giving.
I want to give my husband everything he could have ever asked for. I want to be supportive of any dream he has, and I want to always stand by his side. I was made from the rib of a man, and I will stand by my husband throughout the test of time. I will never leave him, I will stay true to the vows I will one day make, and no man, person, or thing will come between my love for my future husband.
“But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty;” 1 Corinthians 1:27
I may sound silly due to being a 20 year old who is professing her love for the man she will one day marry, but I love him because he will love me. I don’t care if people say I’m not “qualified” for marriage due to just being a 20 year old, but God does not call the qualified; He qualifies the called.
Singleness may be my season right now, but it isn’t permanent. Just like seasons change, this season will eventually change, and I want to make sure that I know what my priorities are. Making sure my husband is heard, loved, and encouraged is one of my many marriage goals, and I don’t care how young I am, but I want to begin to prepare myself to be that helper to him.
You might not think of your future spouse like I think of mine, but I love the man who finds me worth getting down on one knee for, who thinks of me as worthy of taking his last name, and who finds me worth starting a family with. That man deserves to be loved, to be admired, and to have the best wife he could ever pray for.
“Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”” Proverbs 31:28-29
My biggest goal is that my husband tells me “You are even better than the woman I prayed for,” and in order to do that, I want Christ to convict me of clutter that is in may heart, to take away any selfish intent that is in my heart, and I want Him to make me even better than the woman my husband prays for. I don’t not pray that out of selfish gain, but I do so for I believe my future husband deserves the best woman God could ever give him.
This is my prayer, this is the wife I want to be, and I pray to God that He shapes me into the woman I dream to be, because the man I marry is worth it, and I hope you feel the same way about the person you will one day marry as well.