Purity is one of those issues that aren’t easy to talk about. I remember when I went to a Christian school and we had “purity week” each February. A lot of people rolled their eyes, some asked “Why do we need this,” and then others played on their phones the entire time.
I, personally, always loved purity week. I loved learning about waiting for the right man, waiting for marriage, and I was so passionate about it! I am set on saving myself for my husband, and I do not care how cultures change; I will always wait for my husband.
However, some people aren’t so “keen” to the idea of waiting. Many people view waiting as “medieval times,” and then others like to twist Scripture into something it isn’t. Purity is topic that either has your “blood boiling,” has you nodding your head in agreement, or it has you under conviction.
As a 20 year old, it is very rare to see other people wait for their spouses, and also, purity has been downgraded to only a “physical meaning.” Some people think that purity is just physical, but purity goes deeper than “being a virgin.”
“Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23
Purity starts in the heart! Why do you think God told us to guard our hearts? Life springs from our hearts, and that spring of life says who we are and explains our worth. The life that flows from our hearts is made pure again when Christ dwells inside of us, and we to guard our hearts to ensure that no impurities can enter in.
” To the pure all things are pure, but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience are defiled.” Titus 1:15
Purity is making sure you do not allow any defiled thing from contaminating that spring of life that is flowing in your heart. That spring of life goes to each fiber, bone, and vessel in your body, and once that spring is contaminated, then your entire body will be susceptible to temptation.
Once your heart is invaded by temptation, impure thoughts, and other factors that society is projecting, then you are more likely to act on that, which leads to harming yourself. What enters your heart, flows to your entire body
People who look at pornography are more likely to destroy their marriages, relationships, and careers, because what your heart is set on will impact everything around you. What enters you heart, will become who you are, and God never intended for us to have “labels,” but He wanted us to be free from bondage.
People who are fixated on subjects about sex, drugs, and alcohol, are more likely to become desensitized to that content due to their hearts being hardened. When your heart is constantly having negativity and ungodly things enter it’s gates, your heart will no longer be shocked, and it will be “unmoved” by sin.
When you no longer find sin disgusting, then you are walking on the edge of falling into temptation, into sin, and onto a dark road that Christ never intended for you to be on. This is why purity is more than your “virgin status.”
Purity is also making sure you do not become “desensitized” and “used” to sin.
Yes, purity has a lot to do with waiting until marriage to have sex, but that’s not the entire meaning of purity. Purity isn’t just “surface” level, because we should have purified hearts set on Christ. We should not allow impure gunk to enter our hearts, we should not allow this world to defile what God created, and we should make sure our hearts are filled with the fruits of Spirit, because one rotten apple can spoil the entire basket.
That is the root of purity.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God,
And renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10
Purity isn’t easy, it takes Christ’s strength, and it takes a heart that is willing to say “No” to temptation. God creates a clean heart in you, so why let the things of this world ditty your heart again? God makes your heart pure and brand new, so why are you going to let anything enter your heart?
If you would not allow a person who is not your spouse to take your purity, then why would you allow sinful things to invade the purity in your heart?
When you begin to look at your heart, you will see what needs to leave or stay. I am very passionate about waiting until marriage, but I am also passionate about not letting impurities enter my heart, because how can I strive to be virginal on my wedding day if my heart isn’t set on purity?
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:8
Purity starts with the heart, and when you focus your heart on things that are pure, then sin has no room to roam, which makes physical purity easier to achieve.
I embrace my purity, and one day I will be able to give my purity in both body and heart to my future husband, and that is a day worth waiting for. Waiting is worth it, patience is worth it, and you are worth so much more than giving yourself away!
Choose to wait,
And embrace the worth that God made you in, because the impurities on this earth are out destroy you, but with Christ, they won’t be able to shake you! Cling to Christ, for Satan will have no room to wreck havoc on your life, so make sure you keep the door to your heart guarded so Satan has no way of entering, because he is out to kill, steal, destroy, so don’t let him try to destroy you.