I am a few days behind on posting, but Spring break is only a few days away, and the only thing between break and I is 3 classes, and then I am done. Life has been very hectic lately, and I don’t know if it’s because of midterms being this week, but the past few weeks has been very grueling; however, I am now able to sit down and finally write!
Anyways, this post is a different from most of my other posts, but I do think it is relevant, and it gives a basis on what you should look for and what conversation you should have with someone if you see that things are getting serious.
I am single, but I do know that one day I will be dating and then married, but I do have questions that I plan on asking a guy when the idea of a relationship is brought up, because before I ever date a guy, I need to know where he stands on several things, so today, I am giving you 50 questions you should ask before jumping nose deep into a relationship.
You need to examine this guy, you need to vet him, you need to treat him as a foreigner who is wanting access to your heart, so ladies, here is my guide to asking a man all you need to know!
Questions to ask the guy:
What is your testimony?
How strong is your walk with Christ?
Are you secure in Christ?
If all you had was your faith and everything else was taken away from you, would you still be able to rejoice in the grace of God like Job did?
Are you a man after God’s heart like David?
Are you willing to be fearless and unashamed for Jesus?
Can you explain the gospel? (This may seem easy, but those who are blind to the gospel cannot explain the gospel, so this will show if he truly knows the glory of God).
How strong is your prayer life?
Do you consider yourself an accountable person?
Do you experience conviction in your life?
What steps can you make to grow closer to Christ?
Are you willing to make yourself uncomfortable for God to mold you into the young man He wants you to be?
How do you plan on leading your future family spiritually?
What are your views on purity and do you plan on waiting until marriage?
What are your short-term and long-term goals?
Will you respect my purity and my desire to wait until marriage?
What boundaries do you plan to emplace in a relationship to uphold the value of purity?
What are your ambitions?
Will you be able to be an encouragement to me when I am in moments where I am weak?
If we were to get married, how would you plan on supporting a family?
In your opinion, what is a good work ethic?
Do you love children and if so, how many would you care to have? (This one is critical, ladies!)
What are you strengths and weaknesses?
What are your passions?
How do you imagine your future family looking like?
What traits attracted you to me?
How important is honesty to you?
What does godly manhood mean to you. Use Scripture to back up your claim.
Questions about the relationship:
Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?
What church do we plan on attending?
What are your views on modesty?
How do you view godliness?
How do you plan on pushing me closer to Christ?
Will you keep Christ first at all times?
Are you willing to tell me I am wrong if I am wrong?
Do you plan to commit?
What does marriage mean to you?
Questions that the girl should ask herself:
Is he pushing me closer to Jesus?
How does he treat his mother?
How does he treat strangers?
Does his priorities reflect godliness and a strong work ethic?
Does his face light up around children?
Why do I like him and what do I like about him?
Is God leading me to this guy?
Does he exemplify the fruits of the Spirit?
Is he the man I could potentially see myself being married too?
What does my family think of him?
Are there any red flags?
Does he have a good reputation with his friends, co-workers, or others who are around him?
Did I pray to God about this relationship?
Ladies, these are questions that you should ask before jumping into a relationship. Sure, having a man show interest in you can cause you to feel good, but you must stand your ground and obtain standards. It isn’t a crime to ask questions, and trust me, when it comes to a potential relationship, you want to ask more than 1 or 2 questions.
Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23
You must keep your heart guarded, and you should only let people into your heart that are worthy of your heart, so it is important to ask questions, to ask God what He thinks, and it is important to make sure that you are not desperate or rushing into a relationship, because things that are rushed break instantly.
I am not saying that these are all the questions that you should ask a person when it comes to finding out things about a person’s spiritual life and goals, but it is a good start. When it boils down to the end, God is the one you should be asking, and He will most certainly tell you if a person is the one for you or isn’t the one for you, so always ask God for His guidance for He will never lead you into disaster.