Immodesty Will not Make You Respected; Being a Modest Woman Will

I normally stay away from entertainment news, but over the past few days, this one article/news title keeps popping up on TV or on social media.

Recently, a girl by the name Aly Raisman posed nude and on her body the phrase “Women do not have to be modest to be respected” was written down her body, and that is a slap in face to godly women.

However, everyone is praising her, telling her how she is “right,” and how girls can walk around in the shortest skirts possible while still being respected. I’m going to be frank with you on this one, If you think you can be respected while being promiscious, then you are sorely wrong.

If you want to respected, then you must respect yourself. Looking immodest does not get you respect; instead, it just gets sex-addicted men messaging you to send him suggestive photos.

Women all across the world wonder why men kept asking them for nudes, and it’s because of themselves. Don’t go on a rant when a man disrespects you when you were the one who posted suggestive photos to start with. If you did not want gross comments, then don’t post raunchy photos that will get that kind of attention. Instead, have respect for the body that God gave you.

Common sense, right?

A godly man will not give you the time of day if you do not respect yourself enough to wear modest clothes.

A job employer will not take you seriously if you do not dress professional.

And a man’s mama will tell her son to let you go if you don’t know how to be a lady.

Modesty equals respect whether you agree with me or not. If you want to be respected by people, then you need to respect yourself and have dignity for yourself.

If you believe that posing nude or wearing clothing that does not leave anything to the imagination is okay, then that shows that you are insecure, and it also shows that you are only surface level. If you show off your body in an unholy light, then in your mind, you belive that your body is the only thing you have to offer.

You don’t have to show off your body to get respect. You can be respected because of how you respect others, how you uphold yourself, how you treat people, and you are respected even more if you respect yourself.

“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?” 1 Corinthians 6:19

Modesty isn’t a woman “being afraid of her body,” but modesty is a woman respecting herself so much, that she refuses to defile her body or her temple. Your body is a temple, and when you are showing it off to every single person, you are destroying your temple.

I am modest because I have more to offer than my body. I want people to look at my intelligence, my love for Jesus, my love for writing, my love for children, my passions, and I do not want people to look at my body. My future husband is the only man who will ever have the right to see my body, and no one else has that right, so why am I going to show off what belongs to my future husband? Not only am I supposed to respect myself, but I am supposed to respect the man that is going to take me as his wife.

“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,” 1 Timothy 2:9

Society is wanting to destroy godliness, and it sickens me. Ladies, please have respect for your body. Do not fall for the trap that society has laid out for you. Again, modesty does equals respect, and how can you claim to be a godly woman when you aren’t dressing like a godly woman?

Cleanliness is close to godliness, and dressing provocatively isn’t close to godliness, so if you want to be close to God, then you must do all things for His glory, and that means all things.

We are meant to set apart from this world, and if this world wants to believe that they don’t need clothes to be respected, then they are headed down a dark road.

Isn’t it weird how this world functions? Society is chanting “Me Too” yet they are the same ones who tell women that they don’t have to dress modestly to be respected. Do you see how hypocritical our society is? Do you see how one-sided they are?

If my future daughters ever told me that they thought modesty didn’t mean respect, then I would have failed as a mother, because it is my job to make sure my future little girls know that modesty never goes out of style, and it is also my job let them know that though soceity is sinful, their bodies are worthy of being sacred, and modesty is beautiful in the eyes of God.

In the end, if you are craving for respect, then respect your body, and bring something else other than your sex appeal to the table. Show us how smart you are, how wise you are, how sweet you are, how lady-like and Christ-like you, and then we will start to respect you. Respect doesn’t go one way, but it goes both ways.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

I am modest not because I am ashamed of my body, but it’s because I view my body as so sacred, that the only person who will ever be allowed to see my body is my future husband, and I refuse to give that right to any other person. I believe that a woman should be modest if she wants to be respected, and I don’t apologize for that belief, for I would rather promote modesty than promiscuity.

9 thoughts on “Immodesty Will not Make You Respected; Being a Modest Woman Will

  1. 1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
    2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 1 Peter 3:1,2

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  2. I could point you to many stories of women who were modest in dress but still suffered ill treatment at the hands of men, even Christian ones. Don’t conflate modesty with respect.


    1. Modesty is connected with respect. At just 20 years old, I have personally been respected by many Christian men, women, and by strangers due to me being modest in both physicality and character. The only times I have been given disrespect was by people who did not agree with my beliefs and thought I was “oppressive.” Just because someone labels themselves as a Christian does not mean they truly are.

      On another note, modesty isn’t just in dress. It doesn’t matter how many vintage or classy dresses a woman wears, because modesty is also in the heart, mind, and soul. If a woman is modest on the outside but immodest in the heart, then she wasn’t truly rooted in modesty.

      Not all people will respect you, but the majority of people will when you respect your body and your character. I don’t know what was wrong with those “Christian men,” but if they make fun of a modest woman, then maybe they weren’t really Christians to start with.

      God bless you, and have a wonderful day!

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  3. Very well written. Thank you for your absolute honesty. I am sure there will be many who do not like what you said. You decided to stand and stand you did (Eph 6:13b) Well done for giving glory to our Lord Jesus and our Father God.

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    1. Thank you so much, Shane for your words! I want to do all things for His glory, and I do not want to appease the world by following their command! Instead, I want to spread truth to them so that they may find Christ! Thank you for your sweet comment! God bless you! 🙂

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  4. Amen, Sister! Adam and Eve didn’t know they were naked in the Garden of Eden until they ate of the tree of knowledge of good and bad. God sacrificed the first animal’s blood for our sins when He gave them skins to cover their nakedness. So, nakedness before God or our spouse is Godly, but covering our nakedness before those of us with Adam’s sin nature is the only way to keep that sin from becoming inflamed. Think of the reaction of horror and shame the Jews and others that were herded into the concentration camps during the holocaust ghad when they were stripped naked. Would you feel any other emotion in the same situation???

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