Two years ago, I wanted things instantly with no wait. I wanted my future husband to come in my life then and there even though I was still only 18. I am not going to lie, but when I turned 18, I was secretly praying for Mr. Right to come waltzing into church or Bible Study one day and be that tall, kind-hearted, godly man I dreamed of.
Other than Mr. Right, I wanted college to fly by, and I wanted everything to come with ease and “at that moment,” but as I got older, I realized that with God’s promises, it will happen in His timing. This lesson was hard for me to learn, and I was a little stubborn at times, but with time comes knowledge and wisdom, and I did learn.
As I began to grow in my faith, I began to learn that good things take time, but bad things are impatient. With patience, promises follows, and when I was younger, I had this moral lesson completely out of my mind.
I wanted everything instantly, but I failed to realize that things that come instantly aren’t always the best. True love takes time, getting my degree takes work and time, and God’s promises do not work on my timing, but they work in His time.
“The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace.” Exodus 14:14
In fact, God wants us to be still as He works in our lives. He wants us to give Him the pen while we stay faithful. He wants us to trust Him, to be at peace, to always seek Him, and to be diligent. He wants us to not worry about the future, because it was never God’s intention for us to worry.
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:8
When we want things instantly, we become hasty, impatient, and we become worriers. That is the opposite of what God wants for us. Instead of worrying, He wants us to think of things of good report, nobility, purity, and of things that reflect Him. Worrying over things does not bringing fruitfulness to our hearts, but it produces bad and rotten fruit.
When we allow bad fruit to entire our heart, we begin to let this impact the way we treat others. When we are impatient, we will be short with others, we will not be as loving, we will be quicker to get angry, and we will be less understanding.
One thing leads to another, and though wanting things to happen on your time seems to only be an internal issue, it eventually becomes an outward issue for it will impact your relationships.
Your lack of patience will not just be in your heart, but it will be in your work ethic, your friendships, and it will show up in your walk with Christ. You will only view God as a “genie in the bottle” when you want things at the snap of a finger.
God is not a genie who will grant you three wishes, but He is your Heavenly Father who knows the promises that are in your life. Yes, God does say that we can ask and He will give, but many fail to realize that God will only give us our request if it’s in His will.
So mant people get angry and ask “Why didn’t God give me what I asked for,” and God might not have given what they asked for due to several reasons. Either it wasn’t in His plan for their life, it was destructive, or it wasn’t time for that request to be granted yet.
Society has made God a “lender” more than a Father, and that is the wrong perception of God. When we fail to wait on the promises of God, we hinder Him from working into our lives, and it might even delay His promises.
When this truth hit me, it caused so much conviction in my life. I was wanting God to do all of things I wanted in the order of 1, 2, and 3, and while I was doing that, I was hindering God from working His timeline in my life.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
I gave God the pen to my life, and I told Him to write my life story, to make my life what He wants it to be. My future husband will come when the time is right, and I believe that he is coming one day. I also believe that I will get my degree, and that all of the other things I have laid in God’s hands will one day be given to me if it’s in His will, because I believe in the promises of God, and I will stay strong in them.
Instead of wishing and demanding for things out of my control to happen, I will remain faithful and diligent, for that is the best way to stay faithful to God while waiting to see His plan play out in your life.
I wish I realized this lesson two years ago, but at least I learned the lesson, and I am very thankful I did. God has now given me a spirit of patience and love and my tenderness towards others has increased by 1,000 percent. I don’t find myself getting hasty, I don’t find myself getting angry if something isn’t happening at the right moment, and I find myself trusting God more and more each day!
Why trust yourself when you can trust a God who already knows how your story is going to end?
Why allow yourself to write your life story when God has already written it, but is waiting for the right moment to put it into action?
God’s promises are way better for your life than what your expectations for the future are. What you may want might not be what God wants, and I am glad to have learned that when I did.
I am now strong in Christ, I am now more patient, more kind, more tender-hearted, and I am trusting Him. Since I have trusted God’s timing, I have found myself not worrying as much, I find myself in such peace in God, in such joy, and it’s because it was never God’s plan for me to worry.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;” Philippians 4:6
He wants me to live in the fullness of His grace, and I will do so! Why am I going to allow myself to worry when God already knows my story from front page to end? Therefore, I choose joy instead of constant fear and worry, for God has it all under control, and that brings me peace, comfort, and happiness.
Thrive and find hope in God’s promises, and I promise you will never regret doing so, for the joy you find when you let go of the pen is uncontainable for once you let go, God will begin working His story into your life!