I had an intriguing, but heated, discussion in our of my classes on Tuesday. First off, I love this class and I absolutely love the professor, but I didn’t agree with one of the discussions.
If you haven’t heard, then there was the “Women’s March” that took place recently, and if you can’t tell, I am not supportive of it. America is the freest country and we have more freedom for women than most countries do, so what are women actually protesting for?
During this class, we had to read a piece of literature that was set in the 50’s, and it ended up not setting well with most of the ladies in the class, but I actually liked the story. The story was a mother telling her daughter how she should dress modestly, know how to cook, clean, how to do basically household necessities, and how be a mom and a wife.
“the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5
To be honest, I saw nothing wrong with it, because in my honest opinion, women are the ones who tend to her family, so in retrospect, we should know how to do basic household necessities, but I am very aware that my opinion does not coincide with all opinions.
Some of the ladies in the class were saying that it was “oppressive,” and that men were wanting to take over women, but I disagree with that claim. Making your husband a meal does not mean he is “oppressing” you. If you want to see real oppression against women, then go to Saudi Arabia where women are now just being allowed to drive. That is what you call real oppression against women.
Society is absurd these days, and trust me, I have heard it all from people who want to argue my stances. A lot of people tell me how I am “wasting my life” due to me wanting to tend to my home by being a housewife/stay at home mom one day. I am called “brainwashed,” “wanting little in life,” and the list continues, but that is far from the truth. I believe in putting my priorities in order, and God commands me to put my future husband and children first before anything else.
I would rather raise a family than protest in the streets for no reason. I would rather cook dinner for my husband, clean his laundry, iron his shirts, fix his lunch and tie every morning rather than lose my dignity by waving a hideous sign outside of the Capitol Building.
Also, I would rather be a virtuous wife and mother than be a societal women who is praised by the masses. I am okay with being a “nobody” in this life, because I would rather have the love and affection from my husband and children than have love from the world. As long as my family knows that I am willing to sacrifice everything for them, then that I consider that a “job well done.”
However, a lot of people like to blame me and think of me as a “wasted opportunity.” I am also being accused of wasting a college education, and none of that is true.
I do plan on working before I become a mother, but when I start having children, then I’m going to step down from my job and become a full-time stay at home mom, but then one day when my children are older, I will work again, but my family comes first!
I am not against women working, but this is just my choice. This is my conviction, my desire, and this is what I want to do. Feminists are very hypocrital. They “fight” for women to have a voice, but when I “voice” my opinion of wanting to be a stay-at-home mom one day when I become a mother, they fight to shut my opinions down. That doesn’t sound like “women empowerment” at all.
That only sounds like feminists wanting to support a select group of women who agree and worship their ideologies, so that is why I refuse to support Feminism, for they do not practice what they preach, and they want to overthrow the plans that God has emplaced into this world.
She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
Proverbs 31 basically shut down the argument, and states that a woman watching over her household is never lazy. Being a wife and a mother who stays at home to tend to her household does it for free and she is never off the clock. Her work is never done, her work never ends, yet society is trying to degrade the value of being a full-time mother.
Being a stay-at-home parent is a calling, and it isn’t for everyone, but I know that it is what God has placed that desire in my heart. A lot of people don’t understand my desire, but I would rather my husband come home to a clean home where he knows that his children are safe and being taught godly principles, where dinner is always ready, and where we can all be a family.
I don’t care about what I do for myself, because when I get married and have a family of my own, I am going to focus on what I can do for God, my husband, and my children. Life isn’t all about what I want, and things take sacrifices, and I am willing to sacrifice for my family even if it’s my career that I am putting on hold.
My family is going to become my priority, and I have seen work get in between marriages, and I don’t want my job to come between my husband and I, so one day, I do plan on stepping down from my career so I can put all of my attention on being a godly wife and mother.
I am not forcing anyone else to follow my steps, but why should I be viewed as criminal for putting my husband before myself? Why should I be viewed as a “ungrateful” when I am sacrificing my job for my husband and children?
In my opinion, being a stay-home-mother makes you selfless and willing to give without expecting anything in return, and that is what a true Proverbs 31 woman does; she gives without wanting anything in return, and I pray to be more like that.
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2
So I plan to being a stay-at-home mom one day, and I am willing to sacrifice for my future family. I am not even a married woman, and I am already willing to make sacrifices for my future husband and children. Society cannot tell me what I can or cannot do, because I am not apart of society because I was set apart, so the women protesting have no jurisdiction on my life.
I would rather be a stay at home mother than to parade the streets, because the women who are raising signs and protesting for no valid reasons are giving up their dignity, and that is the one thing that I refuse to give up.
I plan to tend to my family with happiness and joy, and no matter how many “marches” there are, they can never degrade the calling of motherhood, and that’s a fact..