I Would Rather be a Stay-At-Home Mom Than Lose my Dignity to Feminism

I had an intriguing, but heated, discussion in our of my classes on Tuesday. First off, I love this class and I absolutely love the professor, but I didn’t agree with one of the discussions.

If you haven’t heard, then there was the “Women’s March” that took place recently, and if you can’t tell, I am not supportive of it. America is the freest country and we have more freedom for women than most countries do, so what are women actually protesting for?

During this class, we had to read a piece of literature that was set in the 50’s, and it ended up not setting well with most of the ladies in the class, but I actually liked the story. The story was a mother telling her daughter how she should dress modestly, know how to cook, clean, how to do basically household necessities, and how be a mom and a wife.

 “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—  that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,  to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5

To be honest, I saw nothing wrong with it, because in my honest opinion, women are the ones who tend to her family, so in retrospect, we should know how to do basic household necessities, but I am very aware that my opinion does not coincide with all opinions.

Some of the ladies in the class were saying that it was “oppressive,” and that men were wanting to take over women, but I disagree with that claim. Making your husband a meal does not mean he is “oppressing” you. If you want to see real oppression against women, then go to Saudi Arabia where women are now just being allowed to drive. That is what you call real oppression against women.

Society is absurd these days, and trust me, I have heard it all from people who want to argue my stances. A lot of people tell me how I am “wasting my life” due to me wanting to tend to my home by being a housewife/stay at home mom one day. I am called “brainwashed,” “wanting little in life,” and the list continues, but that is far from the truth. I believe in putting my priorities in order, and God commands me to put my future husband and children first before anything else.

I would rather raise a family than protest in the streets for no reason. I would rather cook dinner for my husband, clean his laundry, iron his shirts, fix his lunch and tie every morning rather than lose my dignity by waving a hideous sign outside of the Capitol Building.

Also, I would rather be a virtuous wife and mother than be a societal women who is praised by the masses. I am okay with being a “nobody” in this life, because I would rather have the love and affection from my husband and children than have love from the world. As long as my family knows that I am willing to sacrifice everything for them, then that I consider that a “job well done.” 

However, a lot of people like to blame me and think of me as a “wasted opportunity.” I am also being accused of wasting a college education, and none of that is true.

I do plan on working before I become a mother, but when I start having children, then I’m going to step down from my job and become a full-time stay at home mom, but then one day when my children are older, I will work again, but my family comes first!

I am not against women working, but this is just my choice. This is my conviction, my desire, and this is what I want to do. Feminists are very hypocrital. They “fight” for women to have a voice, but when I “voice” my opinion of wanting to be a stay-at-home mom one day when I become a mother, they fight to shut my opinions down. That doesn’t sound like “women empowerment” at all.

That only sounds like feminists wanting to support a select group of women who agree and worship their ideologies, so that is why I refuse to support Feminism, for they do not practice what they preach, and they want to overthrow the plans that God has emplaced into this world.

She watches over the ways of her household,

And does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27

Proverbs 31 basically shut down the argument, and states that a woman watching over her household is never lazy. Being a wife and a mother who stays at home to tend to her household does it for free and she is never off the clock. Her work is never done, her work never ends, yet society is trying to degrade the value of being a full-time mother.

Being a stay-at-home parent is a calling, and it isn’t for everyone, but I know that it is what God has placed that desire in my heart. A lot of people don’t understand my desire, but I would rather my husband come home to a clean home where he knows that his children are safe and being taught godly principles, where dinner is always ready, and where we can all be a family. 

I don’t care about what I do for myself, because when I get married and have a family of my own, I am going to focus on what I can do for God, my husband, and my children. Life isn’t all about what I want, and things take sacrifices, and I am willing to sacrifice for my family even if it’s my career that I am putting on hold.

My family is going to become my priority, and I have seen work get in between marriages, and I don’t want my job to come between my husband and I, so one day, I do plan on stepping down from my career so I can put all of my attention on being a godly wife and mother.

I am not forcing anyone else to follow my steps, but why should I be viewed as criminal for putting my husband before myself? Why should I be viewed as a “ungrateful” when I am sacrificing my job for my husband and children?

In my opinion, being a stay-home-mother makes you selfless and willing to give without expecting anything in return, and that is what a true Proverbs 31 woman does; she gives without wanting anything in return, and I pray to be more like that.

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2

So I plan to being a stay-at-home mom one day, and I am willing to sacrifice for my future family. I am not even a married woman, and I am already willing to make sacrifices for my future husband and children. Society cannot tell me what I can or cannot do, because I am not apart of society because I was set apart, so the women protesting have no jurisdiction on my life.

I would rather be a stay at home mother than to parade the streets, because the women who are raising signs and protesting for no valid reasons are giving up their dignity, and that is the one thing that I refuse to give up.

I plan to tend to my family with happiness and joy, and no matter how many “marches” there are, they can never degrade the calling of motherhood, and that’s a fact..

24 thoughts on “I Would Rather be a Stay-At-Home Mom Than Lose my Dignity to Feminism

    1. I agree with the quote of your previous pastor! I admire your wife and her dedication to stay at home! I believe that the highest and most wonderful calling a woman could have is motherhood and tending to the family! She is surely blessed! 🙂

      God bless you! 🙂

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  1. Your future husband is a blessed man.
    My oldest daughter (29) has a business degree from Texas A&M. She worked hard to get the degree and got a good job after graduation. Six years ago she married and they worked and saved. After having their first child, she quit her job and became a stay-at-home mom. They now have three kids and it’s a full-time job. I am so thankful she doesn’t have to place our grandkids in daycare.

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    1. That is wonderful to hear, and I am inspired by your daughter and her willingness to be a stay-at-home mom! I am glad she doesn’t have to place your grandchildren in daycare as well! God bless you! 🙂

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  2. I was born and raised among women who were microentrepreneurs, small merchants, here in Brazil, who needed to take initiatives, to take care of themselves, to do their own work, in front of their houses, marriage, families, children, relatives, and others; these were my mothers. And for that, there is a great deal of self-giving and sacrifice of my parents and others.

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  3. 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 I have been a stay at home mom for the more than 12 after teaching at a public school. Rasing our girls is a ministry. I am preparing them for the world. I needed to give them the biblical world view which the Lord had called me too. It is a privilege and an honor to be stay at home mom. 👍 great post well said

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    1. I am so inspired by your dedication to your daughters! We need more mothers who are willing to stay home and raise children in godliness! Being a stay-at-home mother is very rewarding and a blessing!

      God bless you abundantly! 🙂

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  4. モニカ Resilient
    2d atrás
    “Remembering the Story of Martha and Mary, when Martha was too anxious and was serving God while Mary was gazing and Enjoying the Beauty of Jesus. I think the lesson there is that we need to Focus more on God, to gaze at His beauty and then all things will follow. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all things will be given to you 🙂 “

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    1. It is most certainly a calling, and it’s one that is is full of promises and tenderness! It is sad that many aren’t willing to understand, but all we can do is pray that they open their eyes to the Lord.

      God bless you! 🙂

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  5. Amen! The world says accept everything -except what people do the God approves of. I was a mother at 18, had 4 children by 23. My husband has an excellent work ethic and God has blessed him with good jobs and family benefits all the time we’ve been together. After 37 years, this “stay at home mom” has raised a female engineer, a civil engineer who served in the Air Force, an IT tech who served in the Army Airborne & Special Forces and a son who was a top Apache helicopter mechanic and now owns his own gunsmith shop out of his home. I’ve accomplished many things during my time as a “housewife/stay-at-home mom’. after spending a month with our engineer daughter, her engineer husband and their two children, I’m glad I never had a full-time out of the home job. Her life is so intense, they have little time for real home time as a family. She’s suffering from stress and sleep deprivation. … even if you don’t stay at home, you still need to keep up the household and the family still needs to be fed, clothed and transported!

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  6. I admire you for being a stay-at-home mother, and I am proud of all of your children’s accomplishments. I do agree that even if women aren’t stay-at-home mothers, they still should keep the needs of the family first.

    God bless you, and have a wonderful week! 🙂

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  7. To anyone who says you can’t stay-at-home nowadays, I cry foul 🙂 I am not trying to be harsh, but if we can make it work, anyone can! My husband does not make a lot of money. He works very hard in a family business and is not paid what he is worth, simply because the business does not generate a lot of income. We have been very blessed in the way things have worked out, but it has always been our desire, and most importantly, God’s desire, for me to stay at home with the children. If you are following God’s desire for your life, it will work out. It won’t always be easy, there are always more bills than money:) But through following what He wants, your life will be blessed in so many ways. I also have a college degree. I know for a fact there are people who view my decision to stay-at-home as a waste. But those people don’t desire what God desires. This I also know for a fact:) And in the end, what matters? The fact that I went out, worked 40 hours a week, sent our kids to school to be influenced by the world, and had some money in the bank? Or that I stayed home, did my best to show our kids what God wants for us, tried my hardest to follow God’s will, and have children who believe? I know my answer, I’m living it:)
    Your husband is going to be a very lucky man. Also, I am open to house cleaning tips, lol….that is an area of constant struggle for me;)

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    1. Thank you so much for your words! I agree with every word you said! I wish more women had the same views and values that we did, but all we can do is pray for them! God bless you, and have a wonderful day! 🙂

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  8. Being a stay-at-home wife and mother is the hardest job on earth. Not just because it is a never ending job, but also because the world has so much contempt for us, despite the fact that we are doing the most important work. I wouldn’t change it for anything though! It is so fulfilling and so worth it! It’s very encouraging to me to see other young women desire the same role. You will never regret that choice!

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    1. I admire you and your courage of being a stay-at-home mother! It is sad to see how much contempt there is for those who choose to stay at home to tend to the family. No matter what others may say, it is one of the most rewarding things this world offers, and being a stay-at-home mother is a blessing, and I wish many other women would embrace this blessing as well! God bless you! 🙂

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  9. Everyone will have their opinion and you can’t please everyone. Once you have your family, you will do what’s best for them. No one else’s opinion matters, including family. If they don’t support you then too bad. Do what YOU were led to do. I too am college educated and have three kids and have been a stay at home mom for 4 years now. It hasn’t always been great, I’ll be honest, and there are times when I wish I had done more with my life. But I have to drown out those negative thoughts and focus on how fearfully and wonderfully made I am. God made us women and we are valued. Our husbands and children depend on us. It’s not always easy, but if you find the right spouse then he will cherish you and never make you feel less than what you are. That makes this journey worth it. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. That makes a difference. God bless.

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  10. I never had a clear sight of what I wanted to be “when I grew up”. This led to chasing several different careers, degrees and ultimately being very unhappy. I didn’t decide to quit my FT job as an admin until 3 days before I gave birth – and I did not seek to keep the career because it was my calling but simply because I was not sure how my family would get by on one income. God provides, that’s all I have to say. Since quitting my job I have had more time to serve in my church, love on my beautiful daughter, love my husband and serve my family. Two years later, I’m a stay-at-home mom to a toddler and I run a business on the side (from home, doing my work at nap time and after I get her to bed), simply because doors were opened that I know God didn’t want me to ignore.

    I would be very ignorant to say that this is an option for everyone. Some people don’t have the support we did. If you are blessed enough to have the opportunity to sacrifice a career to stay-at-home, it is an important job and you will be blessed by it. It is always important that we seek God’s will in everything.

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    1. Thank you so much for telling me your story! It is wonderful, and I do pray that I get the same opportunity of being a stay-at-home mom! It is truly rewarding and it is very special! God bless you! 🙂

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