Date With The Intention of Marriage or Don’t Date At All

Here I am scurrying to write this post, and I am looking for words to say, but I know exactly what to write about, but my fingers cannot keep up with my mind when typing.

Where did godly standards go?

Today, I ran into someone I have known for years, but this person is not very friendly. She always made fun of my walk with Christ, she always made fun of my purity standards, and she always made fun of me when I invited her to church or Bible study.

This girl is very “Anti-Jesus,” but today, she began talking abut how she’s dating a godly man, and it confuses me. Just the other day, she was laughing in my face when I was telling her about waiting for marriage, and now here she is dating a man who proclaims to be godly.

First off, why is a godly man dating a woman who publicly makes fun of people who strive to be Christ-like? Why isn’t he looking for someone who is as equally godly as he is?

In our society, dating is viewed as “nonchalant,” but I disagree. If you are going to date, date with the future purpose of it leading to marriage or don’t date at all. When you view each person you are interested in as a potential spouse, then it will make you become selective and have high standards.

However, many people do not do that, and it isn’t just men, but it is ladies too, for both genders are equally as guilty of this.

A lot of people might ask me why I am so carried away with this, but there are so many lessons that people are not learning. If the person you are dating does not reflect Christ, then were you really searching for godliness? Were you really after Christ if you are willing to settle for someone who does not view Him as important as you do?

“Do not be deceived: β€œEvil company corrupts good habits.”” 1 Corinthians 15:33

Those question are not easy “surface” level questions, and whoever you date reflects who you are as a person. God was a clear when He said “Do not be unequally yolked.” As godly singles, we should seek a significant other who loves Christ, who is dedicated to Christ, and who we are okay with bringing home to our parents.

If you cannot see yourself bringing home that person to your parents, then that is a good indication that something is wrong. I am a very old-fashioned young woman, and I believe that the father’s blessing is important. Sadly, My father passed away, so he will not be able to meet the man I bring home nor will he be able to give his blessing to a man, but my mom will; therefore, my mother’s opinion is important to me.

If you wouldn’t want your parents meeting that person, then why are you dating them? Since when did standards only relate to certain aspects of life? Standards should be high in every single relationship you have; friends, acquaintances, and even with people you go on first dates with.

Β “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

If a man is not dedicated to Christ and if he isn’t a strong man of God, then I will not be giving him a first date, and I will not apologize for that, because God says that I am worth more than a mediocre man, and I refuse to date a man who his unequally balanced when it comes to Christ. In fact, I want a man who is more dedicated to Christ than I am, because I want a man who will be able to continuously encourage me and guide me closer to Christ.

I know that may sound sassy, but sometimes, you have to get your hands in the mud and lay down the rules, because who you marry should be godly, and I am not settling for an average “post a verse occasionally on Twitter” type man who goes to church “sometimes,” because I want a man who is so much more than that.

I love my friend dearly, but I will not condone her negative attitude towards those who follow Christ. If that man who she is dating is a godly man, then he should seek someone who is godly as well, because he is heading towards heartache.

Why date an ungodly person if you know it’s going to lead to heartache? Surely, a godly person doesn’t plan on marrying an ungodly person, right? Therefore, why even open the door to hurt and pain by dating a person who isn’t godly? I do not believe in dating every single person who passes me by, so why would I date an ungodly man if I know I will have to one day end the relationship due to him preventing me from finding a godly man?

I pray that my friend does find Christ, but I also hope that many singles realize that God is not kidding when He wants us to be equal with each other, and that means in terms of both people in the relationship being godly and dedicated to Christ.

“Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

God also does not want us to give our hearts to just any person, so we should date with the intention of wanting to see if that person is the one, and if a person isn’t godly, then why would you even entertain the idea of dating them to start with?

I know my future husband is a godly man, so why would I compensate for a temporary “status change?” I want a permanent, long-lasting marriage with a godly man, and if it means saying no to men who do not rise to the standards of godliness, then so be it, but I I refuse to settle for less, and I refuse to date a man who I could not see a potential marriage with.

Sometimes, saying “No,” can hurt, but in the long run, it prevents heartache, and you will be able to focus finding godliness more than you would if you entertained a “half godly” relationship, so why date an ungodly person if it’ll end badly anyways?

Save yourself from heartache, and let God write your love story, for He is the best author known to man.

Again the best way to avoid dating ungodly people, is if you date with marriage in mind. If you do that, then you will not settle for a person who is not Christ-like, so date with marriage in mind, or don’t date at all.

21 thoughts on “Date With The Intention of Marriage or Don’t Date At All

  1. I admire your desire to hold onto godly standards and intentional relationships. That’s encouraging! We need more examples of young people doing this πŸ™‚ Keep following Christ, no matter what you see and no matter what anyone says.

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    1. Dating has been considered a recreational activity in today’s day, and I pray that people begin to see that relationships are very important. Thank you so much for your words, and God bless you! πŸ™‚

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  2. Great post Christina, and spot on.

    It would be very interesting to have a chat with the dude she is “dating” that’s for sure, in the mean time could be an awesome opportunity for you and your network to be praying for both of them. How awesome it would be to see both their eyes opened.

    I feel for the Christians who pursue non believers to date or marry who don’t really understand what t hey are doing (they really need to hear truth) and to the Christians who intentionally go out of the body to get a partner all I can think of is Proverbs 1:22-29

    Thanks for posting

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    1. I feel for those who date ungodly people as well. It makes no sense to me, and it really breaks my heart for them! I pray that they seek Christ and realize the importance of a godly marriage!

      God bless you! πŸ™‚

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