I Was Adopted: Here’s My Story

I’m letting you into another part of my life that defined who I am, and this one isn’t down or gloomy, but some may think the beginning part is, but I have come to terms with my past, and I want to share it.

God blessed me with loving parents, and even if they weren’t my biological parents, they loved me as their own daughter, and I want to share the wonderful joys of “adoption” or in my case, becoming the daughter of my biological grandparents who are the most wonderful parents I could have ever asked for!

My story is different, as I stated above, for I was legally raised within my own family, but they still loved me as a daughter. God blessed me with loving grandparents who then legally became my mom and dad at age 3, so I still saw my family growing up, but the beginning of my life wasn’t so easy.

Before I was born, no one knew what gender was, because I was a “little lady” and refused to break the laws of classiness, so during ultrasounds, you could never know what I was due to my legs being crossed. My biological mother wanted a baby boy. She bought all boy clothes, she bought boy things, and she was going to name me Joshua, but the moment I was born, and she found out that I was a baby girl, she resented me.

My biological mother hated little girls: she utterly hated them. When I was born, she refused to hold me, refused to look at me, and was livid. She kept begging why I had to be a girl, and she thought there was “some mistake.” At one point, she asked if I was confused with another child and refused to believe that I was the right baby.

When I was 3 months old, she left me to die one night as she ran around to do drugs and be with multiple men. My biological mother was a prostitute and a horrible drug addict, and when she would run the town, she would put sleeping medicine in my bottle so I would stay asleep in my crib and never wake up, so the neighbors or not one walking by could hear an abandoned baby screaming and crying.

One day, my biological grandparents, who then filed to become my parents, barged into the house for God was telling them that something was wrong, and whenever they tell me the story, they say that they had to barge into my nursery where the windows had  blankets on them so the neighbors would not see that I was left unattended.

On that night they rushed me to get help for they knew that it was only minutes until I passed away. My diaper went unchanged for 4 days, I was barely breathing, I was malnourished, and I was under an overdose of sleeping medicine, and they were panicking beyond belief.

Whenever my mom recalls what she felt in that moment of rushing to revive me and filing to adopting me, she tells me that she thought that I was going to die at only 3 months old, but she kept praying over and over for God to let me live.

However, this story has a happy ending. Due to my biological grandparents wanting to be very careful with the legal papers, the lawyers, and taking my biological mother to court, it took them 3 years to finally legalize things, because they wanted to do so very easily and without any surprises.

They were afraid of my biological mother running away with me, so to prevent her from doing so, it took them a long journey for me to become their daughter legally, but I remember the day that it became legal. Now, I always viewed my grandparents as my mom and dad,  but the joy I felt when the judge said it was legally binding felt amazing!

Though I was just 3 years old, I remember that day! I remember my mom running up to me saying It was “finalized,” and it was in that moment where we could all breathe and no longer worry about anymore pain, because I had loving parents who couldn’t be taken away from me.

“But now, O Lord,
You are our Father;
We are the clay, and You our potter;
And all we are the work of Your hand.” Isaiah 64:8

I am not a product of my environment, but I am a child of God and I am the clay in His hands! I don’t let my past define me, I refuse to let it define me, and I will not ever blame myself for something that was not in my control. God blessed my life with wonderful parents, so why should I be sad?

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lordyour God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”” Deuteronomy 31:6

I don’t look back at the past, but I look towards the future that is filled with joy, love, and happiness. God has been good to me, and though my life might have started out on a path that many aren’t on, He never left me, and God will not leave me now!

I have a story, and this is a big part of my life that formed me into the person I am! As I was growing up, I had some other kids my age think I was “abnormal” for being raised by older parents, and I was bullied when the other kids found out my story, but I did not care then and I don’t care now. I don’t worry about how old my parents are and I do not care if they were not my “biological” parents, because blood does not automatically make you a parent.

Love makes you a parent, and I was loved by my biological grandparents and they will always be my mom and dad. I do not care if I did not come from them, because that does not matter to me. They gave me a loving childhood, supported my dreams, were amazing, were wonderful, and were the best parents I could have ever asked for.

And I thank God for the wonderful blessing of adoption.

Though I do plan on having biological children, I would at least like to adopt one child, for I know what it’s like to be taken into a home and to have loving parents, and I want my husband and I to take in a child who deserves to be loved. Maybe this desire comes from my own experience, but there are so many orphans who deserve loving homes, and if I can give just one child a home, then that means there is one less child that is parentless.

I would really like to adopt a girl from Asia, because in China, little girls are thrown away or killed due to China’s limit on children being so restricted. Also, there is a high sex-select abortion rate in China, because boys are more valued due to them carrying on the last name, but the little girls who are born have been said to be abandoned or killed, and many of the births of little girls go unreported so their deaths will never be known.

Therefore, I would love to adopt from China one day, and I pray that my husband will understand and be on board.

The reason I want to adopt, is because those little girls who are thrown away deserve to be loved. I used to be that little girl who was “left to die,” but God gave me a loving parents, and those children deserve loving parents too.

I found a loving home due to God’s love and mercy, and one day, my husband and I will have a family, and I want our family to include a child that dreams of having a mother and a father, and I want to bring love to a child’s life.

And I hope I find a man who’s just as passionate about this desire as I am.

34 thoughts on “I Was Adopted: Here’s My Story

  1. Amazing testimony and I’m so sorry to hear what you had to go through as a baby. I love how you have developed strength of character and compassion for other children, and adoption is a beautiful thing so I pray you will find the right husband to agree with you and support you in that.

    I don’t know if you still struggle with difficult feelings towards your biological mother, but if you do, I highly recommend a piece of writing by my friend Alan Millis on the subject of forgiveness. It’s called ‘From Victim to Victor’ and draws on Jesus’ teaching. You can download it for free from the Essays page on my blog. It’s brilliant.

    God bless you and thank you for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much Steven for those words, and I also thank you for referring me to your friend’s piece on the subject of forgiveness! I’ll go download it right away, for I’d love to give it a read!

      When I was a little girl, I used to have trouble forgiving her. When I was six years old, I used to have such hateful feelings towards her, but when I accepted Christ, He began to convict me of those feelings, and I then forgave her, but I would still love to read Alan’s piece, because I do believe there are areas of forgiveness I need to work on! 🙂

      Again, I thank you for your kind words, and I also thank you for referring me to your friend! I’ll go download it now!

      God bless you and have wonderful night! God bless you! 🙂

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      1. I have struggled with forgiving a certain person in my life too and when I read Alan’s essay I found it SO helpful – so I really hope it blesses you 🙂

        Thank you for your kindness, openness, and honesty!

        May God’s blessing rest over every area of your life! Amen! 😊

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      2. Thank you for your kind words, Steven, and I can’t wait to start reading the essay! I just downloaded it and I am quite excited to read through it! 🙂 I pray for God’s blessings over every aspect of your life as well! 🙂

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  2. Crikey Christina that was full on!!! You had me sitting on the edge of my seat as well so thanks for sharing. You shared it so well.

    God will continue to use your story for years to come you can count on that! You have reminded me of how powerful our narrative can be, especially when we look back and see what God is doing in it. I was adopted as well at 3 months, my birth mother was very similar to yours and hated males! My wife found her on facebook earlier this year and we were able to connect in a small way. She became a Christian many years ago.

    May you continue to be transformed by the love you experienced as a child by your adopted parents, and allow that to direct your path to welcome others who have been rejected but don’t yet know what it means to be valued. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much for your words, Dave! I also thank you for sharing your story of adoption as well! I also think it is wonderful how your birth mother became a Christian! It truly shows that God can transform and save anyone!

      I have no idea if my biological mother ever accepted Christ, but I do pray that she finds His grace! Though she did do some unimaginable things, I pray that she finds truth in Jesus Christ, because He is the answer!

      Thank you for sharing your story with me, and I pray that God continues to bless you abundantly! 🙂

      God bless! 🙂

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      1. Oh no worries Christina, I read your story holding my breath a bit cause of the similarities. I wasn’t keen on sharing as I felt it would be a bit of a hijack but the more I read the more I wow’d.

        Yep she will have to live with the things she did, unfortunately many people carry pretty shocking stuff around. My birth mother was no exception. God is pretty awesome the way he saves people. I encourage you to pray for her and no doubt you have forgiven her, it sounds like it anyway. Your spot on about him being the answer, and I was also able to play a part a role in my mothers healing by telling her that I forgave her for everything, I hope you get the same opportunity my friend.

        Thank you for sharing your powerful story again. Peace 2 you

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  3. You are an Overcomer! Many people who have similar stories struggle with self-image, but God has given you such tremendous perspective on your value in Christ and the love He and your family have for you. I have a friend with a very similar story. She was adopted by biological family and is doing well. God makes all things beautiful in its time according to Ecclesiastes 3. Praise God for your beautiful story!

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    1. Thank you so much, Matthew for your words! God does make everything beautiful in it’s time, and I am so happy your friend is doing well!

      It is true that many people who have dealt with the abandonment of a biological parent suffer from self-image of insecurity issues, and it breaks my heart. God can make them whole and He will lead them to purpose, love, and hope, and I pray that those who do battle with self-image realize that they have a Father who will never stop loving them!

      God bless you, Matthew and thank you so much for your kind words! 🙂

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  4. What an amazing story. My twin and I were also adopted by our grandparents since my mom was a teenager at the time she had us. Unfortunately, my mom was raped and that’s how my sister and I were born, but her parents took care of us since they didn’t believe in abortion and my sister and I reunited with our mom later on at the age of 16 when she was able to take on the baton of parenting us so we have a great relationship with her now. The years she lived without us were hard on her because she was just a teenager herself trying to finish school etc, so I can relate to a lot of your story here. God is amazing in who He provides as caregivers to groom you in a home filled with love. Thankfully, the love you received is within your blood-related family. God Bless You!

    – Sherline 😀

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    1. Sherline, I thank you for sharing your story with me! I am glad you and your sister have an amazing relationship with your mother now! I am glad you had your grandparents to help your mother and to give you and your sister a home of love!

      God bless you, Sherline and I am so glad that you and your sister now get to have precious time with your mother! I know that must be very rewarding!

      God bless! 🙂

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  5. Reblogged this on shanebryantsite and commented:
    An amazing story of God’s Mercy, love, and passion, especially for little ones. This truly is a story worth telling and showing the world, especially that there is indeed a God – the One true God – who never sleeps nor slumbers but is continually pouring out his Grace and protection. He is passionate about Families!!!

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  6. Beautiful story!!! My husband and his first wife (now deceased) adopted their little girl when she was 2 days old. When she grew up and got married, she and her husband had one daughter and then they adopted a little girl from China and later one from Ethiopia. God is ever so faithful. All three are very special to us.
    So many grandparents have had to become parents for their grandchildren. Thank God for every one of them.

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    1. That is so wonderful, Pat! God is so faithful, and adoption is one of the many beautiful gifts He has given us! I know that all three of them are so very loved by you and your family!

      Many grandparents do become parents, and I am thankful for them as well! Thank you so sharing with me, and God bless you! 🙂

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  7. What an amazing story! Thank you for having the courage to share it with everyone. May God continue to bless you and I am sure that your future husband has (or will have once you share your story!) the same conviction to adopt:)

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