I am a woman and I am a female, yet in our grueling society that has taken the focus off of Jesus and onto indescribabe things, being a woman is frowned upon. Women are expected to deny godly attributes of what make us divinely beautiful and feminine, and we are told to be loud, unbearably brazen, ruthless, and with the selfish goal of wanting to “conquer men.”
In our society, women are told to forget what makes them a woman, to view being a woman as “oppressive,” and to hate the way they were made. There is a unique difference between men and women, and it’s not to be “oppressive,” it’s not to be “discriminative,” but it’s to show how two opposite people can come together and form an enteral bond, lift each other up, and help each other in ways the other person cannot.
A woman is not supposed to do everything a man can do, and a man is not supposed to do everything a woman can do. Women have been designed differently from men and men have been designed differently from women. One of the unique purposes of being a woman that distinguishes women from men is the ability of child birth, yet society says that this is a “burden.”
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
As a woman myself, I admit that I am a weaker link, and I understand that my husband will be a stronger link than I am. Sometimes, I need guidance, and I need help in situations. Sometimes, I cry, I’m confused, and I need someone who is stronger than I am to help me when I feel like I am at a crossroads.
I have had women in the past ask me “How can you believe in God when He “oppresses” women?” I think that question is very contradicting, because throughout the Scriptures, women are held up to be valuable beyond rubies and men are commanded to love their wives like Christ loves the Church.
How does God envision a woman?
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” 1 Peter 3:4
A graceful and elegant woman is a person who is gentle in spirit, quiet, meek, and isn’t ungracefully loud. She isn’t demanding, she doesn’t boast, she doesn’t think of herself, she makes sure that others are getting help rather than thinking about what she can do for herself, and she exhibits kindness.
She helps the poor, she helps raise her daughters and her sons into godly men and women, and she is worth more than rubies. In God’s eyes, a woman should know that her worth is in Jesus Christ, and that she does not have to lower herself down to the level of this society.
Those are the attributes God wanted women to have, yet our society wants to degrade that! There is nothing wrong with being a man if you are a man, but when a woman is wanting to be a man for she hates being a woman, then something is wrong.
As a woman myself, I am glad to be a woman. There hasn’t ever been a moment where I cried out wondering why I was made a woman, for I know my purpose, and I know that I was made for a unique purpose. I know that one day, I will be a loving wife to my husband and I will be giving birth to our children, and I believe that is one of the most precious gifts that womanhood provides.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12:2
I will be a wife, I will be a mother, I will be doing what I love, and I will not ever join society in wanting to degrade my role of being a woman. I want to be humble, quiet, gentle, and not self-absorbed. I don’t care about what I can get out of this life, but I care about what others receive.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.” Proverbs 31:20
I want to take the focus off if “me” and onto others. There are people out there who have needs, who need help, who need food, who need water, and the list is endless, so I have no time to worry about my wants when there are so many people who need help, who need to know that Christ thought they were worth dying for, and who need encouragement.
So instead of demanding to change what I cannot change, I embrace being a woman for God made me with a purpose. He made me a female, He made me to be graceful and to be humble, He made me to be a helper and an encourager to my future husband, and He made me to give birth to my husband and I’s children, and I am going to embrace that!
I would rather be in the shadows and live a life of quietness than to be unpleasantly brazen in a pursuit of trying to “conquer men” or trying to show men that “women are better,” for let’s be honest, there is no such thing as being better than another person.
Instead of wanting to be better than someone else, encourage them, help them, and if you are a woman, embrace that, and if you are a man, embrace that as well. Why fight, battle, and cause disturbances to something we cannot change? Instead, we can help encourage each other to be Christlike, to be compassionate, and to find peace in the plan that God has for us, so whether you are a woman or a man, embrace being His child because He made us all with a purpose!