Classes start today, so I thought I’d post earlier this morning! 🙂
Purity is one of those topics that people either love to talk about or hate to talk about. I remember when I went to a private school a few years ago. We had purity week once a year, and some of my former friends hated it, and I wondered why. Purity is something to be embraced and cherished instead of being hated, so today, I want to talk about purity!
To give some background information of how this all started, I wear a purity ring, and me telling you this will make the story a whole lot easier to follow. When I was sixteen, I made a promise to my Heavenly Father that I would stay pure until I was married, and with that promise came a purity ring, and I am very serious on my promise and it is a promise that I cherish.
My ring draws attention and it serves as a testament to my promise. One day, one of my former friends asked me recently why I always wore my ring and refused to take it off, and I told her about what it meant. My friend, in public, ended up yelling “Christina, are you seriously going to be the 20 year old virgin who does the waiting game? You have to be that girl?”
Yes, I am going to be that girl because as a woman of Christ, I think giving my gift of purity to anyone other than my husband is wrong and disrespectful to him. Not only that, but I am told to flee from all sexual immorality, and I want to please my Heavenly Father and not disappoint Him; therefore, this is also why I am so prominent on my promise.
“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?” 1 Corinthians 6:19
To love Christ is to follow Christ, and my body is considered the temple of the Holy Spirit. Immorality would would hinder my walk with Christ, it would cause me to fall into deeper sins, more temptations, and things would continue to spiral out of control.
When you leave the door open just an inch, the devil will come marching in. The man worthy of that is my future husband, and he is the only one worthy, for that is a scared gift for him and him alone.
Chastity is one of those things that is considered “nonchalant” in our society. This is proven true in books, movies, and the music industry. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t watch TV anymore, but instead, I watch and read things that are centered around the gospel and around Christ, which is more beneficial to me than “reality TV” or “soap operas.”
A lot of people think I have taken this way to far, but have I really? How is me promising my Father in Heaven to wait until marriage taking it “too far?” Actually, it makes me want to keep that promise for I promised Him directly! I prayed and I made my promise known to Him, so yes, I did take it to a new level, but it put me at level where I have a great responsibility on my shoulders.
“When you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it;
For He has no pleasure in fools.
Pay what you have vowed—
Better not to vow than to vow and not pay.” Ecclesiastes 5:4-5
He does not take too kindly to promises that are broken, and with this knowledge, I am doing all that I can to ensure that I do not disappoint Him, so if that means me being a twenty year old virgin, then so be it, because I will remain chaste until I am married. I will not be giving my gift that rightfully belongs to my husband away to a man who is not my husband.
A boyfriend or a girlfriend is not a husband or a wife, so why allow someone who is not your spouse to claim something that is not theirs? It makes no sense in my opinion. Breakups are painful enough, so why would I make it even more heartbreaking to give a man something as precious as my purity when he could easily up and end the relationship?
What does that tell my future husband? How will he feel about that? How will my future husband react if I were to be so careless while dating? He would wonder if I ever thought of him. Even though I am not married yet, I love my husband dearly, and I want to be the woman that he would fall madly in love with and have no doubts about his devotion towards me.
I want to be the woman he want to to have a forever with, spend a forever with, and have a family forever with! If I want him have the same qualities, I have to obtain them too.
Therefore, I will stay pure as long as I am unmarried. My gift of virginity belongs to my future husband and him alone, and that is a gift that he rightfully deserves, so I will not carelessly give it to a man who is not worthy of it. My future husband is probably waiting for me, so in return, I will wait for him as well.
The one thing I will not regret is waiting for him, and I’m pretty sure he will be thankful for my commitment of waiting. Though I have been given the title “The twenty year old virgin,” it is worth it, for one day, I will be able to look back and know that the wait was well worth it, and that is something that no one can take from me.
So to all the unmarried people, purity is important and should be viewed as sacred for the only one worthy is your future spouse! So examine yourself and ask yourself how important purity is to you, and if there is something that is lacking, go into prayer, for He is willing and just to forgive you!