Being a godly woman is the one thing our society does not understand. When you tell someone that you aspire to be a godly woman, they immediately think all of these things that aren’t true. Our society views godliness as a medieval belief, but that idea is simply wrong. Being a godly woman is timeless, classy, and being what God calls us to be, but our society is so blinded by the sins of this world, that they consider trashy classy and classy old fashioned. There are five major misconceptions about being a godly woman, and it’s about time that they are addressed!
1. Being a godly woman does not mean being an “unintelligent women.”
When you tell someone that you are a godly woman, they think “She must not be as intelligible as others” or “She must not have high aspirations,” but that is simply not true! Being a godly woman does not mean you are dumb! You can be smart, college educated, have a successful job, and still be a godly woman. Being a godly woman does not depend on your smarts, but it does depend on your walk with Christ and how you live your life.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26
The first part of this verse say that she opens her mouth with wisdom. A person who “lacks intelligence” cannot be wise. Proverbs 31 says that a virtuous woman obtains wisdom; therefore, God views us as intelligent, so our society is wrong to say that we aren’t knowledgeable just because we choose a different way of life. In the end, society says that godly women are “not as smart” because we choose to go against “the status quo,” and they think that any other way that is not full of sin is “stupid.”
2. Being a godly woman does not mean we do not have the capability of being strong.
As aspiring godly women, a lot of people view us as “weak” due to our walk with Christ, but that is simply not true. We might be “weak” to the world, but we are strong in Christ and we will defend Christ. A godly woman is strong for the Lord gives her strength!
“Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
Proverbs 31 contradicts and shuts down the arguments of those who oppose godly living. How can we be weak if strength and honor are our clothing? Therefore, godly women are not weak, but instead we depend on Christ, are strong in Christ, and we do not go on our own understanding. The world thinks we are weak because we do not engage in the worldly sins, but that is simply not true.
3. Being a godly woman is not about being walked on.
Just because we are godly women does not give anyone the right to walk all over us. Virtuous women are worth more than rubies, and everyone knows that you cherish rubies, so why is it different for daughters of the one true King?
Look at the godly women in the Bible, you have Esther who risked her life to save the Jews, and she was not walked on. Mary willingly gave birth to Jesus when she knew of the hardships and the dangers that came along with the calling that God gave her, but she was not walked on. Then you have one woman by the name Rahab who helped the Israelites conquer the city, and she was a prostitute before she gave her life to Christ, and she was not walked on!
There are many more godly women like Ruth who were never treated horribly and were respected. Just because a woman is a godly woman does not mean she isn’t determined or strong, so why treat her like she’s nothing?
“She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15
Like I stated earlier, a godly woman is more precious than rubies and nothing can compare to her! Proverbs makes it very clear that a godly woman is precious yet the world views a woman that is godly as a “subordinate,” but in God’s eyes we are worth more than any earthly treasure known to man. The world views us as less valuable because they know that we are valuable due to our morals, our integrity, and our faith in Christ. The world wants to deny the truth as much as possible, and that includes the mocking of those who believe in Christ.
4. Being a godly woman does not mean we dress “frumpy.”
When you say you’re a godly woman in front of a group of millennials, they immediately think “She must dress frumpy” or “Her clothes must be outdated,” and that, like everything else mentioned, is not true. Yes, we are called to be modest, but that does not mean we have to be frumpy and outdated.
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
Before you ask questions on how this verse backs up the claim of not being outdated, there is one word that answers it all. 1 Peter tells us women that adornment shouldn’t be merely outward, in other words, we shouldn’t only focus on the outside, but on the inside as well. 1 Peter did not say that we are strictly prohibited from the outward appearance, but it did say that we shouldn’t put our entire focus on our hair, accessories, or clothes, but it never said we couldn’t.
A godly woman can be fashionable, but modest, however, a godly woman understands that it is her heart and her walk with Christ that makes her beautiful, so she doesn’t focus her entire time on her outer appearance. So to answer the question on “Do godly women dress frumpy,” the answer is “No.” The world just says we are because we dress modestly, so they find a way to justify why they shouldn’t.
5. Being a godly woman is not being self-absorbed
This is the one misconception that isn’t in our society but it is in the godly womanhood, and it is a problem that can easily be fixed. Being a godly woman is about strengthening your walk with Christ and not about your ego. The goal of being a godly woman is becoming the lady He wants you to be, which is humble, joyful, obedient, and a faithful servant.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31:30-31
Charm can be deceitful and beauty is passing, so we shouldn’t fall into the traps of focusing godliness on ourselves, but instead, being godly is fearing the Lord. Fearing the Lord requires a woman to be willing to give up everything just to follow Christ, so being a godly woman isn’t about us, it’s about Jesus!
There are probably more misconceptions on being a godly woman, but these are the ones that you see the most frequently. Being a godly woman should be encouraged, and though the world may have some myths about how we live or do things, we must stay strong in Christ. We know who we are, and we do not need the world’s approval. Instead, continue to strength your walk with Christ and continue to allow God to mold you into the lady He wants you to be, for His plan is much better than what we could ever dream of!