To the girl or guy who continuously asks themselves “Why can’t this year be my year to have someone” or “Did God forget my love story,” just know that things happen when they are supposed to happen. God has a plan for our lives, and while we may be single one year or a few years, that does not mean that God has forgotten us. Eagerness is normal, for it’s a human emotion, but it is also okay to wait as well.
I understand and I know the feeling that many are going through. A year or two ago, I was the one who walked around thinking “God did you forget me?” “God everyone around me is on their third boyfriend and I’m not even on my first,” and I also remember thinking “Is something wrong with me?” These thoughts infiltrated my mind and made me very impatient and overly eager, which lead me to almost dating the wrong guy a few years back.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
Being impatient is wrong, for you should trust God with His plans for your life. No, you aren’t overlooked! No, God hasn’t stopped writing your life story, and no, there is nothing wrong with you! Being single isn’t a punishment, for when you are single, you learn the things you need to know before you enter a relationship. How do you expect to know how to have a godly relationship when your relationship with God is horrible?
To the person who is overly eager, pull back some and divulge into God. When I made this blog back in December, my relationship with Christ flourished! I was getting more into His Word, I was communicating more with Him, and I was putting all of my worries in His hands! Now, when I think of the future, I know that Christ is already there, and that also includes my dating life.
“casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
If you went through the day with any of the thoughts above, cast your cares upon the Lord! God is there and He will listen to you, but you need to be willing to open up to Him. Before you can open up to a person you love, you have to open up to Christ first. Being overly eager isn’t going to change the situation; therefore, you might use the time getting stronger in Christ rather than complaining about something that God already has under control.
When you date another person, you both grow together in Christ. If you aren’t strong in your walk with Christ, how do you expect to pull your weight with a person? If you cannot understand the spiritual problems of the person you are dating, then how can you say you love them when you can’t help them?
Dating is not just posting photos on Instagram, going to dinners, or bragging about each other. Dating is also about encouraging the person to keep going on, giving them advice on their spiritual war fares, and it’s also about strengthening each other in the one who created you both!
It’s okay to wait on a person, and it’s okay to desire future goals, but when you become overly eager, then that opens the door to depression, the weakening of your walk with Christ, and it can also cause you to become desperate, which will make you more susceptible of allowing bad company into your life.
“Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”” 1 Corinthians 15:33
We are to not be deceived, but when we allow ourselves to fall into depressions instead of trusting the Lord, then those of evil company will seek a way to attack your morals. When you are wounded, the enemy attacks, which will then corrupt your morals. Don’t let your status throw you into a depression, for that can cause the enemy to use that against you!
We should wait in all aspects in life, and not just in our dating lives; however, since it’s Valentine’s Day, I know that this is the day that can cause many to plummet into a deep abyss of depression. You’re not the only single person in the world, and with about seven billion people on earth, one is destined to be the one who God has for you, so why are you worrying?
When you pull back on eagerness and clutch on to more patience, we will then focus on more important things like Christ, those around us, and our spiritual lives. Don’t let your hopes and dreams rule you, because that’s not healthy to your soul! Jesus said that He would direct your paths, but it’s your choice to believe Him, so choose to trust Him and cast your cares upon Him, for He already knows what your future will hold.